Would I get fire for revenge porn?

[Hrimaly]

Hello,

This is my first time using this app, I apologise if I make any mistakes.

As the title says,I did something really... really stupid. When I was 18, I didn’t refuse my ex when he wanted to make a sex tape. Now, I deeply regret it. It's probably the biggest mistake I've ever made, and I can confidently say I will never do it again. I've asked him so many times to delete it. He claimed that he did and promised me he wouldn’t hurt me. He is a civil servant and told me that he didn’t want to lose his job. But I’m still worried that he might not have deleted it after all.

My previous ideal job was to become a police officer, and his job is somehow connected to the police. Because I’m so worried that he might use the video to hurt me and damage my career, so I gave up on my dream of becoming a police officer. Now, I’ve decided that when I turn 21, I will apply to become a flight attendant, and the company is in Middle East.

I’ve cut all contact with my ex, and he doesn’t have access to my social media or any other ways to find out personal information about me. However, I’m still anxious that if he did upload it to internet or if he find out where I work and send it to my employer, when the company finds out, could I get fired due to revenge porn?

By the way, I’m in an Asian country and I’m 19 years old. I haven’t told anyone about this, and I’m worried my family will be disappointed in me. But I really need someone to talk to about this. I feel so depressed for didn’t refuse him to do that…. I’m so so stupid...

Only someone who knows the usual rules/standards/requirements of your own country could answer this. In the UK where most Mumsnet users are based, your partner could go to jail for sharing the video without your permission. But that might not be the same where you live.

Ok, so you’ve done something silly, but there’s no changing it now, so you just need to learn from it and never, ever do it again. Hopefully he’s told you the truth and deleted it, but if he hasn’t, you’re going to change in appearance so much in the next few years, that you could plausibly deny it’s you.

What are the laws in your country regarding revenge porn? If you were in the UK, we could all reassure you that he’d be the one in trouble if he showed anyone, but you might have different laws. It does sound like he’s concerned about causing problems for himself if he does release it though, which sounds encouraging if he still has it. He’s aware that there will be negative consequences for him if he shares it.