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5 signs you are in a silent divorce

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Itsdiscodancing · 02/03/2025 12:57

I am just in the process of splitting up with my partner. This person is a black hole, sucking the light and life out of the surroundings, constantly finding fault with me, ever suspicious and paranoid.

I feel wrecked.
Does anyone here feel some people suck the life out of others, while the opposite group energises and also calms. I think I have just met someone at the extreme end of that who was good at hiding it for a long time. I felt the emptiness of this person.

I have figured it out regarding this person.
To start with, I’ll mention the 5 signs of silent divorce I have encountered, I hope that will help someone wake up faster if they are in a similar position.

  1. They act like a roommate until they need something. Most of the time they ignore you. Until they need attention validation or a favour. Suddenly the charm is ranked up when they need an ego boost of some kind.

  2. You mourn the relationship while you are still in it. Deep down you know they’re never going to change.

  3. Your relationship feels like a performance, in public they act like the perfect partner, behind closed doors, there is no intimacy and no warmth, just cold indifference.

  4. You feel more alone with them than when you are alone, their presence drains you.

  5. There is an emotional wall between you. All of a sudden there are a million things distracting him, most like exaggerated or completely fictitious.

Are these pretty common signs?

OP posts:
PickAChew · 02/03/2025 16:59

If that's what you're experiencing it does sound like a dead marriage, I'm afraid.

Itsdiscodancing · 05/03/2025 13:00

Anyone experienced this or have anything to add?

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