I am just in the process of splitting up with my partner. This person is a black hole, sucking the light and life out of the surroundings, constantly finding fault with me, ever suspicious and paranoid.
I feel wrecked.
Does anyone here feel some people suck the life out of others, while the opposite group energises and also calms. I think I have just met someone at the extreme end of that who was good at hiding it for a long time. I felt the emptiness of this person.
I have figured it out regarding this person.
To start with, I’ll mention the 5 signs of silent divorce I have encountered, I hope that will help someone wake up faster if they are in a similar position.
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They act like a roommate until they need something. Most of the time they ignore you. Until they need attention validation or a favour. Suddenly the charm is ranked up when they need an ego boost of some kind.
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You mourn the relationship while you are still in it. Deep down you know they’re never going to change.
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Your relationship feels like a performance, in public they act like the perfect partner, behind closed doors, there is no intimacy and no warmth, just cold indifference.
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You feel more alone with them than when you are alone, their presence drains you.
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There is an emotional wall between you. All of a sudden there are a million things distracting him, most like exaggerated or completely fictitious.
Are these pretty common signs?