Sister replying to questions directed at me on social media

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My Dsis whenever someone posts a question to me on my social media will always respond before I have chance to answer and it makes me so cross!
It feels and I know this sounds dramatic, like she is silencing me. I have also taken a big step back from my SM use because it's annoyed me so much.
AIBU or is it just bloody rude?

Ask her not to? Explain it's not really the done thing.

That’s really odd. What type of questions? I would delete her replies and then post your own answers. She will soon get the hint

Oh I didn't realise you could do that! Great idea. Bringing it up with her feels a bit pathetic so I like your suggestion

is she doing it because she thinks you're not around much, or have you only taken the step back because of this?

Very weird.

Is she answering correctly, or giving wrong information?

What kind of questions are you being asked on social media!? I can’t really imagine what kind of things you’re regularly being asked or how she is in a position to answer them?

Yeah more context needed. Is it like you post a photo and someone asked "Lovely pic how are you doing?" and she answers for you?

@toomuchfaff she started doing it around 2 years ago and yes I took a step back because of this specifically. The info she gives is correct but this morning I got a message from a family member not spoken to in a while asking about my DH. I saw it as an opening to an exchange about the family and by her responding it shuts down the exchange. It's so strange that she does it!

So family member asks "how is HelpmeDH new job going?" and sister replies "he is really enjoying it"?
That's weird

So if she answers, then say something like, “I’m not quite sure why DSis is answering about DH” and add some detail that she hasn’t. Just because she’s said something doesn’t mean you can’t add to the conversation. I can only assume your DSis has no idea you feel like this, so either say something to her, or make sure every time you add to the conversation, you include some sort of puzzlement about why DSis is answering questions aimed at you.

On what social media is this? How is dsis seeing your messages? Why are people not asking things directly?

@BruceAndNosh yeah just like that! Asked me if my husbands father was someone he knew from way back. It wasn't really up to her to answer and she did it all the time before I stopped posting as often. But she is still doing it!

It's on Facebook, I'm an oldie

I would just act as if she hadn't answered. So family member asks how job is going, sis says "really well, he's enjoying it". You respond to family member "thanks for asking. He's really enjoying it. It's a great fit for him. It's a fantastic environment to work in ".

I think that you've took a step back and she doesn't want to leave people without a reply. As said, you should have just joined in the conversation. But also delete her replies.

Omg my dm used to do this, drove me mad 🤦‍♀️

Let her respond, you can't control what other people do, you can only control how you react, don't get stressed about it. then as suggested, answer yourself, but make the response more meaningful, so you are nullifying the sister response, you're responding to the question and starting a conversation as you would (as though sis had not responded),

if sis provides any incorrect information, correct it publicly "no Susan, that's wrong, you're incorrect there". Call it out publicly.

@Ponoka7 no it's not this, she knows that I am still on there, and see posts consistently. She responds within minutes!

Snooze her for a month and then post your own answer.

How annoying 😑
I'd do what someone else suggested and completely ignore her and answer the person myself.

Yeah I'd just delete her response then add your own.

DSis has far too much time on her hands and is chronically online, constantly monitoring fb and searching for anything to interact with. I’d ignore or delete her replies, but always add your own. You’re not being silenced intentionally (I think sis is just bored/seeking interactions, stepping on YOUR interactions is a side effect) but you are allowing it to happen. You have full control here. It doesn’t matter if she has already spoken, you can still answer as it was YOU who was asked.

You’re allowing her to take over. Don’t.

I would publicly call her out for answering in your place. Like "I don't know why Susan is answering this but.." look at delete functions and delete her replies. This just makes me happy that I don't have any social media.

Or, slightly more PA but will work, you can change your fb post settings to share things “friends only, except Dsis” This doesn’t mean you have to do it in every post, it’s an option at the time of posting (same as posting public or totally private)

This means she won’t be able to see your post and anyone can interact without her interjection. It will be possible she’ll discover this, but only if anyone else says “hey did you see OP’s new photo” and she checks and can’t see it. Then if she confronts you, you can just be honest and say she was stepping on your toes and you wanted to post something without her replying to every comment.

Talk to her.

I’d call her out too. ‘X wasn’t asking you sis, no need to answer for me’. I’m sure the ppl posting find it odd too.