To think mumsnet it’s not a place to find help anymore.

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I believe mumsnet has had its place from line eyes threads to people being able to recognise and notice abuse they are in and I think the idea of it and the main principles of it are a fantastic resource for people who need the support system.
however so many people have taken over as a way to belittle or put down other posters rather then just offer a handhold or some advice or support in which they are offering. It’s okay and healthy even to be told a opinion which differes from the origianl post (I’m sure this may get one or two) however people are just mean spirited and downright nasty on some threads especially where people seem to be asking for advice.

I saw a women who’s post was all around domestic abuse and the comments literally said “I bet you have a council house” followed by “with a dog and crushed grey velvet” when the whole post was on how to stop feeling guilty for leaving the relationship as well as teplied saying your partner sounds awful when the post was all about OP leaving the relationship.

then another post I saw had a women asking for breakfast without her husband and a response like “two people that don’t love eachother shush living together how sad”- how would you know that from a post about breakfast.

I also saw a post on a mum asking for support with an abortion with a new partner with so many replies saying how stupid and idiot she had been and not educated rather then word in away to get contraception next time to prevent it again hope you recover.

im not saying mumsnet is bad but it’s not a place to go if you genuinely need support as the replies can be so mean spirited especially at the moment

Oh give over with the Karen shit.

This is sexiest

I think I might have quoted you wrong sorry!!

You really shouldn't be signposting your clients to MN OP. While some of the advice is excellent, it's just ordinary people, nothing is verified. If you are doing casework for vulnerable women and they have questions outside the expertise of your charity you need to be referring them to approved sources of specialist advice.

This is actually a sexist term! Although I agree that it is full of women who have nothing better to do then put people down and act like the sun shines out their asses. It did never used to be as bad j remeber coming on here after I was in a mother baby baby unit for psychosis and it was very helpful and informative. I would not want to read what some of the commnets on those topics could say now.

@Sprocker6, hopefully you'll learn a bit about misogyny on Mumsnet and how to teach your children to not use such misogynistic phrases.

Sprocker - welcome to Mumsnet. A warning that the insult 'Karen' (rightly) is not popular here - hoping not to derail the thread with a debate around its origins and intent, so I will say that, although it might have had valid origins relating to racism in the USA, many believe it now to be a misogynistic insult with the sole purpose of silencing women's voices, particularly the voices of middle-aged and older women who are seen as no longer of sexual worth and therefore not allowed to stand up for themselves or have an opinion.

I think this is a problem with AIBU mainly. I find other boards more supportive. People come to AIBU to challenge / to be challenged, it’s not the best place to ask for support.

100% agree. People are nasty on here and it does worry me, even though not everyone on here has children, that these people are raising kids. We teach our kids if you’re ever in trouble look for another mum, with the idea of mums being kind and nurturing people but half the people I see on here I wouldn’t want anywhere near my kids!

I still think the percentage of kind people is largely outweighing the nasty ones. Which is why I keep coming back:)

Karen is a misogynistic term used to shut women up, Having the rarely used term Kevin makes no difference to that fact. I'm sorry you didn't know that.

AIBU is a bear pit OP, always has been and always will be I expect. There are gentler places to post here though.

Oh well that's alright then.
Educate yourself and your children. Do better.

Surely you have explained to your kids the misogyny behind that awful term?
My DC's are 17 and 15, and they detest its usage.

I used to work for a mental health charity and signposted people to all kinds of services including online. I would never have suggested Mumsnet.

But, to be offended by every single bloody thing in this world is just past the point of ridiculous.

Well yes that would be ridiculous.

And probably impossible also.

I'm sorry you've taken my, and others' well-intentioned posts as a reason to leave ('flounce' in Mumsnet parlance).

As you don't like the easily-offended, why not swallow your own offence and stick around - you can't judge a site in two hours!

I would be very concerned about any professional that signposted service users to one of the most trolled sites for support.
Especially people experiencing domestic abuse given how many of the trolls on here are MRA.
I would seriously question their professionalism

My teens are educated and aware enough to know that the term ‘Karen’ is sexist and nasty. Perhaps you all need to educate yourselves now that you know.

Why are avoiding sexist terms and having ‘real’ problems mutually exclusive in your world?

Esp given the hideous paedophile troll photos recently.

Perfect example of such nonsense on this thread
And yes to anyone signposting vulnerable women to a forum that has recently had several instances of images of abuse being posted.
Talk about not doing your job properly

Steer clear of AIBU if you can't take it. Go to the specific topics/boards and the support is outstanding imo