Apologies if this is a long one, AIBU?
I have 3 children, my oldest has nothing to do with her dad - she’s never met him. My other 2 children, their dad lives in the apartment above ours. Keep in mind, he took me through court and solicitors for a year to get the same rights and responsibilities as myself. There was a court order with dates and times put into place, this was back in 2021 so his shifts were different back then but he’s now claiming he can’t stick to having the children every other weekend and two evenings during the week? He chooses to work overtime during the week and also most weekends as he’s “set the bar” and it won’t look good if he doesn’t continue this.
Now my issue is, my oldest daughter (not his) was taken to hospital during the week and we don’t know how long she’s going to be here for. He collected the children from my parents on the day she was admitted in hospital (quite late on the evening) as he stayed at work late, again even though he knew this was the case. He wanted to drop the kids off after feeding them and bathing, as he HAD to be in work the following day and claims I stitched him up - as if he had known he was going to end up having them overnight- he wouldn’t have had them to start with! Also I should be leaving my daughter in hospital alone, to go and look after my other 2 children as he has a job?
Basically took me through court and moaned for a year that my parents did the job that he should be doing, but can’t be bothered now and is expecting them to pick up the slack? Is it me, do I just live on a whole different planet?