To think this co-parenting advice is a joke

[Cucy]

I saw an advert for co-parenting and couldn’t believe it.

It’s made me irrationally angry and I know I’m BU. I just think what an absolute joke!

How can millions of women pick their kids up on time but yet a man who has them half of the time or less not be able to do it.

This isn’t aimed at dads specifically but when reading it I knew that 99% of the time when a parent doesn’t show up or is late it’s going to be the dad.

Obviously there are some incredible dads but there’s no way I would be asking how I can help someone (who is a grown adult and parent) how I can help them pick their own kids up on time.

It's trying to get parents to think of their kids rather than trying to harm, hurt and/or piss off the other parent.

In many cases time is needed before one or both parties stop acting like jerks. However in a minority of cases one party will never get over the fact that the other just doesn't want to be with them and takes it out on everyone in their path until they die.

So some twat always fails to pick up
their kids when they say they will but the use of language is the problem??

I think it's pretty good advice. Instead of being combative and ending up in an argument it's taken back to what is best for the children.

I can see a little bit of the point here. Getting into conflict isn’t great for kids to see or hear so finding less forceful ways of communicating will avoid arguments.
My Ex-H is never on time for anything. Never has been in nearly 30 years. So of course this includes pickups. But there’s no point me stressing as I can’t change or influence him. Getting my DD back to his house safely is more of a priority and if I had a go at him as they left, the chances of this reduce. But it rarely impacts me so I can be fairly relaxed about it. DD doesn’t expect him to be on time.
That said my ex-p would always be on time for his DC’s so some men can do it.
I’m sure it works both ways and there are mums who are always late too.

I absolutely agree with not using combative language around kids.

But I think some people need telling straight.

There’s no way I would be tip toeing around a grown adult.

If someone doesn’t turn up or doesn’t pick their kids up on time then they need to be told to sort it out.

If both parents never turned up or turned up late every day picking up the kids from school then there would be a huge cause for concern but some parents can choose to not turn up or always be late, knowing that the other parent would pick up the slack.

Yeah it's like you are also expected to parent / baby the other parent. Ffs. While combative language isn't OK around children I don't feel women should be expected to sugar coat stuff when they have a crap Co parent.