To think kids who have ‘immature parents’ can’t wait to get away from them?

[ChillaxingStuart]

i had an aggressive, abusive, alcoholic mother and an enabler father. I was an only child and had absorb the shitshow on my own

Thry were both immature but my mum had a more ‘outgoing’ manner and my dad just shy and passive. They were both immature and lacked confidence but this manifested in different ways.

As a young child of 5 I can remember crying to my mum that I wanted to live with a family friend and at 22 in uni I can remember saying to a friend that I didn’t want to end up like my parents as imo they lived a pitiable, miserable life.

AIBU to think there’s nothing more difficult for kids than living with immature parents - and the kids then want to make their exit sharpish!!

@TorroFerney You’ll find the strength to let her go and feel happy for her, because you already recognize that it’s the right decision for her. You’re a mature parent, ❤️

Thank you. I didn’t explain myself properly sorry. It’s about me it triggering me and me being sad I didn’t go rather than not wanting her to go. I’ll be encouraging her to go . I hate the word triggering it’s very overused but I couldn’t think of another one!

@TorroFerney
I'm 20 years NC with my 'mother', I always say the only thing she taught me was how not to be a parent.
I have my own DC now and all are doing well, youngest is at uni and I'm so proud they got the opportunities I never had.
Be proud of your DD going to uni and growing up, you've obviously been a good supportive mum.

Yes, or rocking up on the dance floor at clubs their student-age kids were attending.

This.