Do I let this go?

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Hey :) just need some advice/ your thoughts ladies! I started seeing this guy I met online. We originally met online but we share a mutual friend and went to the same school anyways, he’s lovely and has always been very open genuine and factual from the start. He has been very honest from day one that he had a son when he was very young but the son was placed in care as he couldn’t look after him due to his young age. This doesn’t bother me as I am very open minded and understand. The thing is- he took me out for dinner our second date and I noticed he was online and had been using the dating app on that day he took me out. I know we weren’t together long and had only really started seeing one another but he had already told me that he had strong feelings for me at that point so why did he go on the dating app? I very kindly and non confrontational asked him about it and he got quite defensive saying it must of been hacked. I’ve checked just now after weeks together and he hasn’t been online since our second date but obviously I’m going to keep checking and if he’s been on it again further into our relationship it’s gonna crush me
was he only on it to make sure I was the one he wanted to be with ? Ever since I asked him he’s not been on it
thanks x

How old was he when his child went into care? How come his parents didn't step up?

Overall he sounds like a bit of a loser. Don't invest too much in this man. I think he's going to really let you down

I'd be very concerned that he told you he already had strong feelings for you before you'd even met.

He wasn't hacked, he was keeping his options open which is quite common during the very early stages but most people are at least honest about it.

I'm not sure what the story about his child has to do with it though?

They're two very separate things.

I'd move on. You're already resigned to the idea of checking up on him and he obviously wasn't hacked. Why put yourself through it? Then there's the issue of a child in care.

Is his son still in care, though presumably this man is now an adult? Or has been adopted? And you weren’t in a relationship by the day of your second date, so I couldn’t get excited. I mean, you’d met once.

Also - what happened to the baby's mother, where is the baby now, why didn't his parents or her parents look after the baby?

It all sounds very dodgy. You say you're open-minded, but why are you so blasé about this poor baby?

What has the baby got to do with the price of fish, anyway?

You’ve just met him. Why is this a thing already. Move on.

Why did you quote the whole OP?

It was a second date, so what if he was still on dating apps. Why would you even check after one date. I don't know him so can't comment on him as a person. On a second date you do not know each other. You are literally just testing the waters. Your no where near thinking about exclusivity and your future together. I'd have run for the hills if I was your date.

It sounds like you have jumped in very fast and have planned a future with a man you barely know. Anyone, including him, that would do this or accept this are waving huge red flags. Slow down op and get to know him if you want but don't go all in so soon. Plus you should be in the absolute best stage of getting to know him now not worrying about him being on dating apps, this relationship is doomed. This can't be fun for you?

He may have been online to answer a message from someone else that had reached out to homor to check your photo.so hed revigmsoe you

Normal to still be on a dating app after 1 date.

Not normal to lie about being on it, very unlikely he was hacked, quite likely he made another account when you confronted him about it and realised you could see when he was last on the app.

Red flag to say you have strong feelings for someone after 1 date.