How messy are your drawers/cupboards

[Wellthatwasalogday82]

Currently in a stand off with DH

I've never said I'm the tidiest person (not dirty, I clean) but we are all family of 4 so seem to have a lot of stuff

Our house sides are generally clear, however drawers and cupboards are quite full. I try and getvrid of things (clothes etc) on vinted but its a slow process

Dh has argued I should be more on top of getting rid of stuff and things we don't need take to the tip. When i asked him when he expects me to go to the tip as I work full time (as does he) he said in my lunch, whixh is usually use to sort a load of washing out if I am working at home (if I get time for lunch) or I go and pick the children up if he is not home in time (he works 6-2 everyday...however no mention of him going to the tip after work!)

Well as you both work full time perhaps he would also like to take responsibility for what is presumably also his house?
he’s got a fucking cheek.
In answer to your question, my drawers and cupboards are mostly fine, there’s a cupboard in the utility which could do with being sorted but neither Dh nor I have the inclination as we tend to spend weekends doing fun stuff.

Why isn’t he on top of it?

He says it mostly my stuff and the kids stuff and that he does stay on top of his (he doesn't they just have his stuff only in and none of ours)

It really all depends on the age of your children. As they get older you won’t always feel so rushed. Tell him to leave you alone.

But they are presumably his children too? So why does it mean that it being the children's mess exempts him from any tidying up?

My drawers and cupboards are - variable. My clothes are all tidy. The understairs cupboard is very much a DO NOT GO IN THERE zone.

They are indeed his

But he is very much of the assumption I do the house and he does the DIY jobs etc

Apparently keeping on top of the washing (doing it, drying, putting away) loading/emptying the dishwasher, and doing 90% of school runs isn't enough

Are they his kids? If yes, then their stuff is also his responsibility.

I have a floordrobe. Or a huge pile on the pouf thing that needs sorting but there is just no time and all that...

Mine are fine but he's an arse

I'm a little minimalist and I like to know exactly what's in the drawers and cupboards so ours are pretty tidy. I do take responsibility for our purging but just because my DH's tidying involves keeping everything but shoving it out of sight in random spots.

Your DH would have to be doing a lot of DIY every day to have it an equivalent workload to the pick-ups, laundry and dishes etc!

I spent January deep cleaning and decluttering. Every cupboard and drawer was done.

Me and my boyfriend have the exact same problem!
I am incredibly clean, tidy and house proud, and I get so stressed when there’s ANY mess… whereas what’s inside the cupboards I couldn’t care less how tidy it is, out of sight out of mind! Whereas my boyfriend gets so frustrated with me for throwing things in haphazardly, and he’s so bothered when they’re a mess. We have a huge storage cupboard off the hallway and I just throw things in, and he hates it so much that he’d rather tidy out the cupboard and keep in nice and organsied, and anything that doesn’t fit in nicely he’ll dump on the floor of the spare room. Which blows my mind. He’d rather have crap all over the spare room floor to “save” a bloody cupboard!

Teach yourself how to change a lightbulb and put up a shelf. You're now in charge of DIY and he can take over the rest.

I think it would he a bit unreasonable to expect him to take responsibility for sorting put the clothes of children you had before you met him, tbh.

I mean, this must be the case because otherwise they are his children as much as yours and his argument that the clothes are mostly yours and the kids' is irrelevant.

My cupboards/ drawers are very minimalist and organized but my children are grown. Echoing a previous poster… it’s a more daunting task when you have a busy family life. Ideally it’s a shared responsibility but 2 DH and no one but me ever cleans out anything. It’s painstaking to get DH to clean thru a bin of work papers and mail which he allows to accumulate in a messy heap in a bin. I like to clean and organize but I wouldn’t do it for anyone else at their demand. And it’s a lifelong project staying atop of other people’s belongings in addition to mine