Messy house

[saamantha19881]

Hey, I need a genuine impartial set of opinions here. Because he is making me feel like I am going crazy when I am fairly sure I am not. But I need 100% honesty. The house is about absolute tip, we are beyond overwhelmed and everything has massively got on top of us (3 under 3 due to twins and both work full time). We sat down and had a chat about dealing with it. I stick a piece of paper up on the wall and come up with a list of things that are achievable by the end of the weekend to get on top of it. DP was sat next to me. DD kept trying to grab a pen and write on the paper/ miss and write on the wall. I kept passing the pen to DP and saying can you deal with this and carried on with my list. He then put it right back in front of her and she would start drawing on the walls again. This literally happened 5 times, then I lost my shit. Saying it is so indicative of our chaotic situation that even when we are trying to get our self in order he is allowing more chaos. He said I was overreacting etc etc. I said no, I don't know anyone else that would think it's cool for their child to draw on the wall. Apparently I'm overreacting and need to see a DR. Honest opinions please.

You’re overwhelmed. D’uh. Don’t do the listing task now, wait till kids are in bed. Have a checkin with DP this evening before bedtime…’just checking your still ok to sit down and go over that list?’ Then get kids down, and relax, and spend 15 mins on it.

I'm not sure why you kept giving him the pen given the circumstances.

I would pay professionals to come over and blitz your place. I would get three bags/boxes 1. Rubbish 2. Donate 3. Recycle Ruthlessly declutter, just get rid off everything you possibly can.

Sort out a daily chore list and organise one day a month for a deep clean. I'm obviously including your husband in all this. If he won't participate, tell him he can pay for a cleaner.

No, I get that, but I was distracted doing the list and just thought he was dealing with it. I kind of went onto autopilot where I just kept calmly taking it off her and asking him to deal with it and hadn't realised it kept happening at first.

Daft to keep giving him the pen to ‘deal with’ seeing as it would take two seconds to put it out of the way/out of reach and he was clearly being absolutely useless. Also, I wouldn’t be writing on a piece of paper stuck to the wall, that’s just asking for the kids to copy and write on the wall itself! Poor timing to try and write this list with the kids awake and under your feet too really.
All that being said, it wa a two second job for him to put the pen out of the way properly, so I’d probably be irritated but not raging about it unless he’s generally useless.

The Organised Mum Method keeps everything manageable.

I swear by it.