That DH got drunk at DD's 7th brthday party today

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We had a lovely party today for DD's birthday and she had about 12 school friends round and some of their mothers stayed and a few of my relations.

DH did a lot of planning getting the garden ready for today and we had a lovely time .

Did say we would just have soft drinks during the party and get out wine etc after the childen and mothers had gone home but DH opened the wine about 2pm and some of the parents had a glass or two.

When everyone left at 5pm DH and my relations carried on drinking and by the time they went at 8pm DH could hardly stand and fell asleep asleep on the sofa .

Feeling a bit miffed he ended the day that way and a bit embarrassed he was obviously pissed n front of my relations.

Am aia being a tad over sensitive and should be happy the party was a success and DH enjoyed himself?

DD had a great time which is all that matters.

Might I venture to suggest - that if you allow him to, your DH might also say he enjoyed it

Oh I think we can assume DH enjoyed it far to much

hey though can I ask you if it is acceptable for a very good friend to message your husband on facebook and say that she dreamed of him and in that dream they were married?

Yes it's fine, really sweet and lovely actually, esp if she said,,,,,,,, why on earth did i dream that. It means she likes him as a mate.

Now if the message was i dreamed we were fucking and i really want you, then nope, that's bad.

but surely you can see that it's predatory - i wouldn't do that to a friends husband

I would! I always do that to my friends husband! I say ridiculous things to him. We are all good mates. I would feel awful if my mate ( his wife) thought i was up to something!

I never would! bet you are young..

No, i am 33

I just love my friends husband

well i'm shocked!

I don't think it is anything to be shocked by, my friend loves the fact i get on with her husband. They both know loads about me, in fact they both took me to hospital to give birth.

yes but what if she suggestively contacted him without you knowing?

I wold send him a text saying i had a dream about you last night.

it depends in what context though, but yes, i would defo do that.

are you single?

you are lucky that you don't suffer fromjealousy - thst's a good place3 to be

Yes i am single, but i do have a certain amount of trust with my mate!

Well, I can see why you're annoyed if noone else can. I wouldn't want DH to get pissed in front of my relations either, and you did say yours were only drinking moderately.

There is a big difference between a group of adults getting pissed together and being the only person at a party getting pissed. The latter looks- quite frankly- sad. I don't mind my dh drinking now and then, but I would mind if he showed himself up as pathetic in this way.

Am also not over-impressed by "DH did complement me more than once on what a good job I had done orgainising the food etc", given that your dh presumably wasn't much help with the clearing up. Seems a funny division of labour, that. Your job is to organise everything and clear up afterwards, and his job is to say "very well done".

The hot weather excuse doesn't really hold water either. Surely everyone knows that you drink extra water in-between drinks on a hot day? I don't like clue-less men.