House buying sudden relationship panic

[MiaRosexo]

Hi everyone

Just looking for a bit of advice please as I'm not sure if the way I'm feeling is normal. Me and my partner have recently bought a house and we are getting the keys very soon. The house move stress has been causing us to argue a lot more but now I'm getting myself in a panic and doubting the relationship completely. It's not the fear of living together as we have rented a place together for a few years now, and we live perfectly fine together, I think it is the anxiety of actually owning a place together and knowing we are legally bound to this house/each other. I suddenly feel really overwhelmed and almost trapped.

Is it normal to feel this way during a house move, will this feeling go away? :(

Thanks ladies x

He's not the one then. I would potentially not get a joint mortgage /buy the house if you are having second thoughts . It will save you huge amounts of hassle down the line.

Are you married or intending to get married?

If you’re not engaged then it sounds like the house move is your first big commitment to him that would be tricky to unravel - so similar to getting married in some ways. But it’s not as obvious as getting engaged so perhaps you are suddenly realising you’ve committed kind of by the back door? And this is making you stressed?

Do you have a legal agreement in place about what happens to the property if you split?

You're buying somewhere to live, not getting married. It's completely different. You're not bound to him and if you change your mind you can get out of it.

Stress when buying a house is totally normal. What you need to do is work out if your feelings are stress induced or if you are genuinely questioning your relationship. Think to the future once you're in the house, perhaps next Christmas what are your feelings then.

It’s a big life change, it’s normal to feel a bit anxious before those. If you’ e lived together before happily then just see how things go in your new home. You’ll likely be fine.

I think what you are feeling is normal. If you have exchanged don't do anything or say anything about your relationship doubts for a few months. Let the dust settle and then see how you are feeling.

I think buying outside of marriage is a mistake- had my fingers burned massively, but if you have already bought its a bit late now so you might as well crack on with it.