Blind date - who pays if...?

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I've just watched First Dates on tv. I can't believe how many women let the guy pay for the date and then say they don't want to see them again.

The last couple, the waitress asked how they wanted to pay the bill, cue awkward silence as the woman took a sip of her drink, then half heartedly asked if he wanted her to split it with him so the guy felt he had to offer to pay it all. She then turned him down for a second date after he said he would see her again!!

How can woman like that be so rude and entitled. Surely if you told intend to see someone again, you shouldn't expect them to pay for you?

Is it just me that thinks that's unacceptable?

I bring nothing to the table

That's pretty evident.

@Bunnyboot out of curiosity.......are you single?

A certain type of woman is so surprised when her husband turns out to be a lazy entitled shit around the home, especially after they have kids, without realising she's been filtering for that type from the first date.

You sound like an Andrew Tate disciple

Then you will reap what you sow in life, Bunnyboot.

What does ‘gentlemanly’ even mean? Both people should be treating each other with respect and kindness, why should that depend on gender? Also where does that leave two men or two women on a date? The whole thing just seems completely weird and something that we should have got over by now. I’ve always split on dates or taken turns, and now I’m married I pay more because I earn more. We’re a partnership. I really think ‘gentlemanliness’ belongs with things like ‘girls’ jobs and boys’ jobs’ and women ending up picking up most of the emotional/invisible labour for a household. Why don’t we agree to move on from all that? Sorry for the rant, I just don’t get it.

A little dated here, maybe?

@Beautifulhaiku a proper gentleman, who puts his cloak over puddles, defends you from rakes, and fights with pistols at dawn for your honour.... #swoon...
Of course! 😄

Good luck catching a man with that approach, dearie.

I suspect Bunnyboot actually is a man, tbh.

I'd split it, personally. I don't expect a man to pay for things just because he's a man. Whether or not I want to see him again is irrelevant; I'd split it regardless. Once the relationship was established I'd just take turns to pay.

I may just hit the dating scene if it means free meals!

Terminally so, I suspect.