Does DH like this woman too much?

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DH and I ( and our dc) recently met a friend of DH’s close friend at a 3 day event, we were staying in same place and we all got on welll. .DH has since talked about how great she is, both to me and our close friend, and even to a table of others. I know he thinks very highly of her but how can I tell if he feels more than a general friendship connection, even if one sided? She’s this she’s that. They got on great- she made an effort with me too and I did like her. He’s never acted like this before so I don’t know for sure if he’s innocently just genuinely enjoyed her company sbd wavts to say how nice that was, or he’s feeling something more. He Don’t want to drip feed or out myself, I haven’t posted in years and recently name changed. She doesn’t live nearby and we prob won’t see her again. Should I just forget it?

If she was a friend of his close friend did he know her before you met her at the 3 day event? Because otherwise how does he know her well enough to " think highly of her" and why would he still be singing her praises to other people?

No we both met her at event for first time. She hadn’t seen dhs close friend for some time before the event, and wasn’t someone he talked about. DH spent time with her at event preparing and organising things- for Dhs close friend. It was obvious he was getting on well with her after first day but he’s mentioned how great she is more than once!

Well I must admit I wouldn't be happy about him.going on about how great she is.
He must be very smitten with her.
I think if he starts talking about her again I would ask him directly why he keeps praising her. And tell him how this ott enthusiasm for another woman is not really appropriate and is making you uncomfortable.

Maybe he has a crush but if you trust him and won’t see her again I wouldn’t lose sleep over it. I fancy other people sometimes but just tell DH - we joke about it.

It's just mentionitus it will pass. He probably doesn't realise he has it.

You met her once and are unlikely ever to see her again. Even if your husband had a momentary crush on her (which is quite a leap, frankly) does it really matter?

Agree with this. If it continues just straight up ask why he keeps banging on about her, he probably doesn't realize he is doing it.
I wouldn't worry too much though if you're not going to see her again.

He does sound like he’s got mentionitus. Do you know if he is communicating with her since then? Liked her Facebook/instragram posts etc? Or has he left it as a one off encounter?

The fact that this is unusual behaviour has got your spidery senses tingling.

I’ll take your advice and use it if he starts fishing about her again- because that’s what it has been! I felt a little embarrassed after a while and I felt it was kind of noticed.by others.But as some of you say, won’t de her again and hopefully it will pass. It threw me a bit because he never really gets excited about much, and it was totally out of character.he kept saying how clever she was and how he was trying to keep up. For context my health had really declined in recent years and with that so has a lot of my ability to socialise and just think/ communicate how I used to. Maybe all that was too close to the bond as I am more than aware how my limitations affect us both. They talked a lot and this was hopefully just meeting someone who he got on with and could get into some good conversations with, something it’s all made me realise he needs that I can’t do so much now.

Fishing about should be gushing about!

I don’t think he is communicating with her in any way no. She passed on her number to me so we shared some messages. I got on with her too, she was lovely. But yeah. I’ll be sure to tell him to calm down if his mentionitis continues..I just hope he didn’t feel they had something

I guess time will tell, but no harm in just being a little vigilant, at least in the short term.