I need to some help to see if I'm overthinking this. My younger sister and I used to be pretty close. Since I married, had kids etc we have very much grown apart. She doesn't and has chosen not to have children which doesn't perhaps help with the distance.
Recently I feel she has startled to try and show me up in front of family and particularly my parents. She's always had a bit of an issue with me and my older sisters who she's perceived as having more and better things than her ( my older sisters are 15ish years older than me). But this seems to go further. When we are all together she has started going over and over embarrassing things that I'd done when we were kids. Or dropping me in it on things that I got up to as a kid/teen.
At first I just passed it off as a bit of banter, but it's every single time We get together, she has a drink and just launches into all this stuff she knows my parents don't know or stuff that makes me look bad. It feels almost like she is trying to demean and humiliate me in front of the wider family. To the point now where I'm beginning to feel she harbours some dislike or resentment towards me. And I just don't understand why. As kids we had a tricky home life and I worked incredibly hard to protect her from some of the unpleasantness. Often to my own detriment. She now has a very close relationship, particularly with my mum.
I'm not bothered really about the content of these discussions. Most of it I've forgotten about. The thing that bothers me is the sentiment and reasoning behind it. Why she constantly has to bring up things from the past that make me look awful. And that I don't think were even that bad. I feel like it hints at an issue she has with me. I would talk to her, but unfortunately she's not really one for conversations like this. Will likely deny it or take offence. Am I being sensitive?