To cut a long story short, last year myself and my childhood friends all had big birthdays. I organised my own outing with drinks and invited females in my family and close friends from all stages of my life. Friend 1 had a party for her’s and friend 2 didn’t have any elaborate celebrations to my knowledge. She hates to be centre of attention and much prefers small intimate gatherings.
Friend 1 couldn’t make my birthday which was absolutely fine.
Friend 2 seemed to be having an amazing time, it’s been a long time since we have been ‘out out’ together due to Covid/lockdown and then us both having children. We laughed and danced with everyone and it was honestly a blast! Everyone told me how much of a good time they had had.
On the way home drunk friend 2 told me to me that she didn’t like my partner. I was shocked at this as I have been with him for many years, I had children with him. She couldn’t elaborate why she didn’t like him, but she just didn’t. She then said he never lets me do anything, which isn’t true. My partner and I are both professionals that work shifts of days and nights, we often don’t see each other and are like passing ships so that we always have childcare without relying on family. When we do get days/nights off together we like to spend them together and with our children. I did party hard when I was younger and I feel like now I’m a parent that lifestyle of partying has drifted. But I feel as though because I’m not always available to go out because I’m exhausted from working full time and shift work and being a parent this could be why she suddenly doesn’t like him.
I remember the whole conversation as I quickly sobered up on the journey home. It’s been a few months now and I don’t know how to approach the situation, I haven’t seen her and have barely spoken to her as I’m so upset. I know I need to just speak to her. I need to bring it up I just don’t know how. We used to have family days out together, meals together. We’ve been friends forever. Is this friendship now over?