To end my relationship because of my mental health?

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I’ve been in a relationship for a few months with a really wonderful human being. I have a few physical and mental health issues and she has been absolutely amazing from day one - so supportive, so comforting, helps me in anyway she can without me even needing to ask.

The last couple of months, I have noticed a real dip in my mental health which I’m pretty sure is related to my menstrual cycle. Half of the month, I feel horrifically anxious to the point where I feel sick and can hardly eat, I feel so so depressed to the point where I feel suicidal. I’ve been to the GP and medication options are limited due to interactions with other medications that I take, and they just don’t seem that interested in it all.

I haven’t told my girlfriend how bad things get, because I’ve never admitted it to anyone outside of professional therapy. When I go through these episodes, I get really tearful and really withdraw from wanting to see or speak to anyone because of how I’m feeling. She is always absolutely great about it, but it’s getting to the point where I feel guilty about putting her through it every month and have almost got to the point where I think it would be better if I just ended things rather than dragging her through these issues this early into a relationship?

Has anyone got any advice on this?

Sounds like pmdd - ask to be referred to a gynocologist / psychiatrist or endocrinologist- all of whom could help with this and will be far more knowledgeable than your average GP re. Treatment options.

Part of being in a relationship is that you share these things with your partner. That’s how relationships form and develop. If they then decide that they’re not up for taking things further and you choose to break up then you’re all doing it from an informed perspective. If she’s already been very supportive of you and has stuck around then I’m going to guess that she’s more than aware that you’re dealing with some difficult stuff and wants to be there, rather than is currently blissfully unaware.

I suspect if you simply break up with her, she isn’t going to take from that that you’re a kindhearted soul trying to spare her lots of grief, but that you’re doing the old “it’s not you, it’s me” - which most people interpret as very much being them (because it often is!) and is going to find it more difficult rather than easier to come to terms with, because she hasn’t been party to your thought processes.

Go back to the GP and keep fighting until they listen. Ask for a referral to an gynaecologist. Explore all of your options because there will be answers and help out there.

Speak to your girlfriend. If she makes you happy and you want to continue the relationship then just be honest with her. Lay it all out there and let her be the one to decide what she can and can’t handle, don’t make the decision for her before she has chance to fully understand.

Honesty is always the best policy. Let her know how bad things feel for you and she may be able to help, or at least understand.
Shutting down from someone who could be a huge support isn’t going to help you. Sounds like she may have a good idea already.
Don’t sabotage what could be a great relationship because you ‘think’ she might not be up for it. Let her decide.
And definitely go back to your GP. Or see another one. You can’t live like this.