To want to leave DH

[Bennybabyp]

So DH has been driving me bananas. We have very young kids and it’s safe to say he is finding it very hard. When he has to help with the kids, he gets frustrated so easily and starts complaining about how “he can’t do this no more.” He’ll deliberately turn down food then complain that he never eats and never gets to look after himself. Join the club, I’ve had one salon appointment in the last 2 years! Next, his spent all day ignoring me, not looking at me when I talk, leaving my messages on read when I ask him to do something for the kids and the very brief times he has spoken to me, it has been about something negative. I can’t take it no more! He is like a dark cloud raining all over my parade. I dread having to speak to him because I’m constantly walking on egg shells. I’ve just told him how horrible him ignoring me is, and his stormed out the house. It’s like dealing with a teenager! Surely this behaviour isn’t normal. It’s as if he is trying to get my attention somehow or make me feel sorry for him. It’s very hard to be sympathetic when his making me lose the plot!

Definitely not normal behaviour OP. We also have a young child so I do get it can be frustrating, exhausting, and you don’t have much time to look after yourself but it sounds as if you’ve stopped being a team and instead he is taking out those frustrations on you and making them YOUR fault, which is really unfair.

He sounds pathetic. Maybe he's trying to piss you off so much that you leave him and he can escape back to his carefree single life without feeling guilty because it was you who ended it. He sounds like a waste of space tbh.

This is mumsnet, the audience will tell you to leave a man for forgetting to do the washing up. 🤣

But saying that, of course leave him. He sounds like a cunt (oh god, I've become one of them!)

No they wouldn’t.

But back to the OP, you think her husband’s behaviour is perfectly reasonable then I take it?

Heh, sneaky edit.

Might sound paradoxical, but maybe leave him in sole charge of the dc more? It's like most things - practice makes you better at it (and breeds confidence). And if he's being horrible to you, that seems like a valid reason to go off and see a friend or see a film or get a haircut or whatever, and leave him to it. Either he'll get better at childcare, or it'll motivate him to stop being a dick to you.

My ex was like this, I left him, he used to complain about looking after our child when I went to work! Literally wouldn’t speak to me when I get home. He didn’t earn enough for me to be a SAHM neither so I had to work to pay our bills. Sad man now realises what he’s lost, he’s alone and having to do it all himself 50% of the time while I’m happy with my new man who is not like that in the slightest! He needs to man up and get on with it or lose his family, ultimately he won’t like it when that happens.

Saw this today and laughed! It’s so apt 😂