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C section worry

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Katemax82 · 24/02/2025 09:05

Hi everyone posting here for traffic...
I'm going to have an elective c section but it's not been booked yet as my appointment with the obstetrician is next week. Can anyone give me their experience? How long does the procedure take? How long do they keep you in afterwards? How hard is it to do anything once home after? Thanks in advance

OP posts:
Season0fthesticks · 24/02/2025 09:19

I have had three planned c sections.
I can't remember how long it actually took I'd say about an hour maybe less time.
Recovery was a bitch I can't lie but I was forced up and in the shower within eight hours each time, after I'd stood up for the first time it was fine.
I always kept baby close to my side so I could reach over without pulling on the wound.
Was doing two mile walks by day seven. (Don't drive so no choice)
But I didn't lift anything heavier than the baby, no hoovering, no lifting toddlers

Katemax82 · 24/02/2025 09:26

Season0fthesticks · 24/02/2025 09:19

I have had three planned c sections.
I can't remember how long it actually took I'd say about an hour maybe less time.
Recovery was a bitch I can't lie but I was forced up and in the shower within eight hours each time, after I'd stood up for the first time it was fine.
I always kept baby close to my side so I could reach over without pulling on the wound.
Was doing two mile walks by day seven. (Don't drive so no choice)
But I didn't lift anything heavier than the baby, no hoovering, no lifting toddlers

Thanks x

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PlantDoctor · 24/02/2025 09:31

I have a great experience. It takes about 45 mins or so I guess. I had mine in the morning and stayed overnight just so you get the catheter out and make sure you're both all good. They did offer me another night but I couldn't stand the heat and noise of the ward tbh! We left early evening the next day.

It's not super painful afterwards as long as you stay up on your pain meds. The one time I missed one I was quite sore, but I only took paracetamol as DD was very sleepy and didn't want to risk her being even less awake if I took codeine.

I made sure to get out for a little walk every day after. You can't do thinks like vacuuming etc., but pottering around the house and making food is no problem. Do you have a partner to help?

I would also add it's a very calm experience (nothing like emergency c section), and I healed a lot faster than some friends who had tears through vaginal births.

I would happily have another if I had a second child. Congratulations 🎉

summersingsinme · 24/02/2025 09:34

I had an elective with my DD. My experience was really good, the whole thing took around 45 mins (including prep/spinal block etc). It was in no way painful. It felt a bit odd as they were pulling her out but as soon as she was born, my whole focus was on her and I barely noticed the rest of the op. Very calm and quick.

I was up and in the shower within 6 hours and home the next day (my surgery was mid-afternoon). I had some pain for a couple of days, but it wasn't as bad as when I had keyhole surgery for my gall bladder removal. After that it just felt a bit odd turning over in bed for a couple of weeks but it didn't hurt - I didn't need painkillers (which were only paracetamol anyway) after the second day. The worst bit was wearing the compression stockings for 6 weeks!

I was careful though, took it as easy as you can with a new born, didn't lift anything too heavy etc but made sure I was moving/taking gentle walks etc. It's over 7.5 years on and I have had no issues, scar faded to almost nothing.

Congratulations and all the very best for your section!

meganna · 24/02/2025 09:36

Katemax82 · 24/02/2025 09:05

Hi everyone posting here for traffic...
I'm going to have an elective c section but it's not been booked yet as my appointment with the obstetrician is next week. Can anyone give me their experience? How long does the procedure take? How long do they keep you in afterwards? How hard is it to do anything once home after? Thanks in advance

I had an elective 2 years ago and it was honestly fine, the worst bit was they made me fast from midnight but I wasn't actually taken to theatre til 3pm the next day! I was starving.

The actual op was about 45 mins. DS was out within 7 mins of the first cut. I was kept in 2 nights, up and about as soon as catheter was out about 12 hours later. TMI but I had LOADS of gas, I was farting freely and couldn't control it initially, it was quite embarrassing! 🫣

Once home just don't lift anything other than your baby, be careful coughing and sneezing initially, and don't bend down or sit on the floor for a while. Change baby on changing table and don't empty or fill the dishwasher etc. After the first week I had very little pain really, but kept up with painkillers for 2 or 3 weeks at the advice of midwives.

I could drive again safely after 3 weeks. Couldn't lift the heavy pram or car seat without feeling a twinge for a good couple of months so used a baby carrier/sling when out and about.

BackAgainSlimLady · 24/02/2025 09:40

I remember writing a post just like this; I had such bad anxiety as it was something I wanted to avoid but unfortunately due to my placenta failing she needed to come out and was too small to be born naturally, so planned section is was.

First things first: Stop googling other people stories. Have you ever noticed people who had straight forward births (natural or c section) don’t post about it half as much as those who had something negative happen? Thats purely because if your birth story isnt traumatic, its boring .. or people think your bragging. I ended up reading story after story and worry myself silly over things as small as the first poo after the section.. to the point I had my mum come over and literally hold my hand as I pooped because I was so scared. It was absolutely nothing and was fine, your muscles in your belly ache anyway.. like you’ve done 1000 sit ups.. but that first poo as long as you’ve had enough h fibre and maybe some laxative post birth, is totally fine.

I’ve had two sections now; first planned as above 5 years ago. It was my first so I was scared, anxious and read too much online. I basically was too scared to move for the first 4 weeks.. and I was sore for a really long time (not agony, just achy bruised sore) but I stayed put on the sofa and got DH to do absolutely everything for weeks and weeks. This was my downfall. It wasn’t until the first poo I realised everything I read online doesn’t have to happen to me.

Second c-section was an emergency after waters broke and didn’t progress. Low CAT emergency so was the same in theatre, lovely bunch of people; all very calm; over and done with within 20 minutes.. took 7 minutes from knife to skin to getting baby out. Very quick. You have someone sat head end who deals with your medicines so they make sure your feeling your best ect.

Recovery; do not listen to the people who start running marathons 7 days post-section. However, pottering around the house, wandering about with baby, very short walks will help you heal SO much faster and I can’t stress that enough.
to compare: I was still sore sore 4 weeks after my first, taking regular pain killers.
My second I pottered about and I was off any pain killers by 1 week and I felt like I’d not even had a section by week 2.. moving was magic.

Do’s:
Big thick maternity pads stuck to the inside of your high waisted knickers over your incision, helps draw out moisturise, keep it clean and acts as a bit of padding to press on to cough/sneeze, laugh ect.

Ask the hospital for some laxatives to take home and start taking straight away.

Stay on top of the good drugs (probably cocodamol and liquid morphine) after the section; the oramorph is lovely stuff and staying on top of it means you’ll manage you sore-ness better.

Tie your dressing gown belt to the end of your bed for a bit of aid/leverage when getting up on the night.

Take a pain killer before your first midwife appointment the day or two after your section; this is when they remove your dressing and along with feeling bruised, you also end up being essentially waxed 😂 so taking a pain killer will help. (It’s not bad but every little helps eh)

Donts
lift anything heavier than baby for 6 weeks; even if you feel able to; you have internal stitches and you don’t want to break them.

dry your incision with a hairdryer; this will blow lint into your incision and doesn’t do you much good although it seems to be what lots of people suggest; stick to the thick maternity pads as above.. all midwives commented on what a good idea it was when I saw them.

Rub soap/shower gel onto your incision. Wash your upper abdomen with soap/shower gel and let it run over your incision then rinse thoroughly, pat dry with a towel then use some cotton pads to really make sure it’s dry. The drier it is the less likely you’ll get infection - I never had any infection or anything with both of mine.

Good luck OP, enjoy that new baby head smell.. I’m so jealous!

Katemax82 · 24/02/2025 09:40

PlantDoctor · 24/02/2025 09:31

I have a great experience. It takes about 45 mins or so I guess. I had mine in the morning and stayed overnight just so you get the catheter out and make sure you're both all good. They did offer me another night but I couldn't stand the heat and noise of the ward tbh! We left early evening the next day.

It's not super painful afterwards as long as you stay up on your pain meds. The one time I missed one I was quite sore, but I only took paracetamol as DD was very sleepy and didn't want to risk her being even less awake if I took codeine.

I made sure to get out for a little walk every day after. You can't do thinks like vacuuming etc., but pottering around the house and making food is no problem. Do you have a partner to help?

I would also add it's a very calm experience (nothing like emergency c section), and I healed a lot faster than some friends who had tears through vaginal births.

I would happily have another if I had a second child. Congratulations 🎉

Hi..I have my husband to do chores plus my 19 year old son can be helpful..thanks

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meganna · 24/02/2025 09:41

Oh and had to wear compression stockings constantly after for 10 days and take blood thinning injections for a few weeks afterwards! They were stingy but ok.

MugsyBalonz · 24/02/2025 11:00

Already on the thread there's conflicting advice...

For wound care, listen to what your medical team tells you as wound care will depend on your incision, the type of closure they use (e.g., stitches, glue, "string and bead", etc), and any factors individual to you such as other health conditions. A general rule of thumb is to leave it alone as much as possible - no lotion or potions, let the air at it when you can (once the dressing is off), and monitor for any signs of infection.

For how active you'll be afterwards, listen to your body. Some people really can go miles afterwards, some are more comfortable just pottering around the house. Neither one is wrong. Just take it slow and don't push, if you feel tired then rest. No heavy listing is universal advice though. Also try to walk upright and not slouched over, your natural instinct will be to hunch over a bit to protect your belly but it won't help your healing so try to walk tall.

Drink lots, eat little and often, stay on top of your meds. You'll need hydration, energy, and pain relief to help you heal. Don't be shocked if "pain relief" from the hospital is a box of paracetamol, if that's all you need then great but if you need something stronger then see your GP asap and get yourself something stronger - no one is grading you on your ability to tough it out.

Get some Windeeze tablets for the trapped wind afterwards and some Movicol to keep everything moving/soft otherwise the first poo will be brutal thanks to the anaesthetic and your GI tract going into a little bit of shock because of being shoved about.

Use what help you have, let your DP take care of things like cooking and housework and don't feel bad if you end up ordering in for meals more often than you usually would.

Any signs of infection or not feeling quite well/right, call the ward, the GP, or your midwife. Be very clear on "I think I might have an infection" and insist on being seen to rule it out. Most people don't get an infection but if you do then being treated sooner is best.

You'll likely hit a wall around day 3-5 where your hormones are fluctuating, you're tired, you're sore, and you're fed up. It happens to lots of us and it's normal. Plan ahead for it and get yourself some treats in - favourite chocolate bar, a new book, new pyjamas, download a film you've been looking forward to, whatever you'd usually do when you want to be kind to yourself. It'll pass, you've just got to keep plodding on and it'll dissipate as your body settles down. If it doesn't pass then do speak to your health visitor or GP about support.

Most of all, you will be fine. For you this is a huge event and a big operation but for your medical team it's just a normal day at work. They do these surgeries day in, day out and are incredibly well trained to deal with every eventuality. You're in safe hands. When the anaesthetist comes around, tell them if you're nervous and ask for a pre-med, they can give you the good stuff that'll make you feel like you're two glasses of wine into a sunny afternoon on the garden and you'll not be worried anymore.

BackAgainSlimLady · 24/02/2025 12:10

Also just to add to the above on movement/doing too much - a good way to tell is if your bleeding gets heavier, you’ve done too much and you need to relax.

CoffeeAndChoccies · 24/02/2025 13:13

I had one and it honestly went the best it could have gone - I’d definitely have another. My waters broke at 4am the morning of my planned section so my day got off to a bumpy start as I actually turned up to hospital in early labour. I went down to theatre as one of the first in the queue - otherwise I understand that you can be maybe be waiting around for a bit depending on when your surgery time is, so take something to keep you occupied!

I had a pre-op for mine 48 hours before, and I had to fast from the night before and they gave me some medication to take at home before going in.

While I was waiting to go into surgery, my recovery midwife and surgery midwife, anaesthetist, consultant etc all came to meet me and do any pre-op checks. I was taken down to surgery with DH. He was allowed with me the whole time. Before we started every member of staff in theatre introduced themself and explained what their role was, I was asked what music/radio station I wanted playing, and then DH held me as they put the cannula in my hand and did the spinal. Spinal honestly wasn’t that bad. Once spinal was in they laid me down and did the catheter - everyone turned their backs and no one looked apart from the 2 nurses who did it, so I was given privacy. I was numb so didn’t feel it - spinal worked quickly! I did feel quite sick and shaky with the spinal and luckily was fasted or I would have been sick. I did feel pretty rotten for a little while but they gave me something to sort it. That’s normal.

DS was born not long after, like less than 10 mins in I think. He had some difficulty when born but all got sorted and I did skin to skin for the rest of the surgery. I think the whole thing probably took about an hour?

I had to go to labour ward after unexpectedly and got put on a drip to make me contract (thankfully still numb!) as I was bleeding a bit more than they wanted. Our bags and all of DS things, including nappies and formula, were sat at our bed on the recovery ward - so my advice is to at least take the bits for baby with you if you can! We had nothing with us and had to borrow a nappy off the lady who went in for her section after me until DH could go and get our things. Went to postnatal ward later that day, had a private room so DH stayed over with us. I was up and walking (shuffling around more like, with help!) later that evening, had a wash, did my skincare and put my own PJs on and honestly it was heaven. Baby Cloud 9.

I woke up the next morning to consultant discharging me at 9am, less than 24 hours after my section. I was struggling with the pain a bit so I asked what they’d send me home with and I got told nothing, just paracetamol and ibuprofen. So I opted to stay in a second night and that really helped, they helped me get on top of the pain, I showered, felt more human etc.

Once I got home I genuinely managed fine - as well as could be expected. DH helped me with showering and the loo for few days as I found twisting painful. Getting up and down was the hardest bit and I used DH for support a lot. But I was making a cuppa, making bottles, changing DS and going up and downstairs and pottering around the house ok. I liked knowing I had someone there to help me if needed though. I remember I always had someone do the stairs with me. Within 4 days of DS being born I was pushing him round our street in the pram having short and slow walks with DH, getting moving is so important and it really helps! But don’t overdo it and rest as much as you need and listen to your body. On Day 6 pp had our first afternoon out to the pub for a meal with DH, DS and my parents as it was my birthday and I woke up and felt so ready to get out the house and celebrate. I got dressed up and put make up on and felt much more like myself. I was moving round better by then, just a little slower, and pain was manageable and not all the time.

I had to wear compression stockings for 6 weeks (I only wore them in the house) and had blood thinning injections for 10 days - I genuinely found them worse than the c-section recovery itself! I hated them and poor DH got it in the neck every day when he had to do it for me! 😬. Oh and the night sweats are a thing! I had them for about 2-3 weeks, but they were worse at the beginning. I was showering twice a day most days I was so hot!

For my actual scar, I had dissolvable stitches and was told to get in the shower in hospital to wash the adhesive dressing off. I was told to gently wash the wound in plain water when showering and gently pat dry and air it off for a while before getting dressed or covering it again. I didn’t have any dressing on it from 48hrs post-surgery. Midwife checked it once at a home visit.

Overall I definitely found it far better than expected and I would do it again in a heartbeat, recovery was far quicker than expected and I was so surprised at myself. Listen to the advice you’re given - don’t lift anything heavier than baby for 6 weeks. At 4 weeks pp I felt fully recovered (and had done for a while) and lifted something heavy (the pram in and out the boot) without thinking, later that day my scar was so sore and stomach muscles in agony. It felt like I’d done the biggest ab workout at the gym! I knew I’d overdone it. And keep on top of those painkillers!

TealScroller · 24/02/2025 13:26

I've had 3 sections, 1 emergency and two elective. The 1st elective was carried out mid morning, very relaxed in the theatre, the staff were amazing and the procedure up till when the baby is born seems very quick. You feel no pain but you can definitely feel some rummaging going on in your belly! They put my baby straight on my chest once they'd made sure he was breathing fine. My stay was nearly a week due to him having ABO incompatibility and then suspected sepsis which was a worry but he fully recovered and he'll be 14 in a few months. My last was similar in that it was just a case of turning up, walking to theatre, my partner stayed with me almost all the way through. The staff put me at ease, it was very relaxed also. The stitching back together takes a bit longer, like maybe going on an hour, I can't remember but it went super fast. Next thing you know they've wheeled me into a side room, sat me up and gave me a sandwich and a drink to eat, you need this apparently and almost immediately tried to get my daughter latched onto the breast (if that's what you want, there was never any pressure). I felt very little pain until the following day because they kept me dosed up with painkillers. I found that while it is painful, it's not so bad as you'd imagine. I found adjusting the hospital bed so my knees were up a bit helped and staff may encourage you to move about a bit when you're able as it helps with the healing process as unlikely as it may seem! I was in 2 days in total.
My advice for aftercare is to rest plenty and eat really well but don't be afraid of moving about either as it really does help, just moving back to the kitchen and looking after your baby is enough.
I found the first poo (apologies), which you have to do at hospital before they'll let you out, was the worst. My advice is to put your arm or hand over your bandaged wound and firm but gently hold it as you go, it just makes you feel a bit more secure. Hope this helps x

TealScroller · 24/02/2025 13:30

I forgot to say, you're likely to be given a box of medication to inject for 10 days (I think) afterwards. Is it to stop you getting blood clots maybe?? That was terrifying for me and I had to get my partner to inject me (the first time he had to chase me round the bedroom!) That said, after a few days you've gotten used to it.

Littlemisscapable · 24/02/2025 13:33

BackAgainSlimLady · 24/02/2025 09:40

I remember writing a post just like this; I had such bad anxiety as it was something I wanted to avoid but unfortunately due to my placenta failing she needed to come out and was too small to be born naturally, so planned section is was.

First things first: Stop googling other people stories. Have you ever noticed people who had straight forward births (natural or c section) don’t post about it half as much as those who had something negative happen? Thats purely because if your birth story isnt traumatic, its boring .. or people think your bragging. I ended up reading story after story and worry myself silly over things as small as the first poo after the section.. to the point I had my mum come over and literally hold my hand as I pooped because I was so scared. It was absolutely nothing and was fine, your muscles in your belly ache anyway.. like you’ve done 1000 sit ups.. but that first poo as long as you’ve had enough h fibre and maybe some laxative post birth, is totally fine.

I’ve had two sections now; first planned as above 5 years ago. It was my first so I was scared, anxious and read too much online. I basically was too scared to move for the first 4 weeks.. and I was sore for a really long time (not agony, just achy bruised sore) but I stayed put on the sofa and got DH to do absolutely everything for weeks and weeks. This was my downfall. It wasn’t until the first poo I realised everything I read online doesn’t have to happen to me.

Second c-section was an emergency after waters broke and didn’t progress. Low CAT emergency so was the same in theatre, lovely bunch of people; all very calm; over and done with within 20 minutes.. took 7 minutes from knife to skin to getting baby out. Very quick. You have someone sat head end who deals with your medicines so they make sure your feeling your best ect.

Recovery; do not listen to the people who start running marathons 7 days post-section. However, pottering around the house, wandering about with baby, very short walks will help you heal SO much faster and I can’t stress that enough.
to compare: I was still sore sore 4 weeks after my first, taking regular pain killers.
My second I pottered about and I was off any pain killers by 1 week and I felt like I’d not even had a section by week 2.. moving was magic.

Do’s:
Big thick maternity pads stuck to the inside of your high waisted knickers over your incision, helps draw out moisturise, keep it clean and acts as a bit of padding to press on to cough/sneeze, laugh ect.

Ask the hospital for some laxatives to take home and start taking straight away.

Stay on top of the good drugs (probably cocodamol and liquid morphine) after the section; the oramorph is lovely stuff and staying on top of it means you’ll manage you sore-ness better.

Tie your dressing gown belt to the end of your bed for a bit of aid/leverage when getting up on the night.

Take a pain killer before your first midwife appointment the day or two after your section; this is when they remove your dressing and along with feeling bruised, you also end up being essentially waxed 😂 so taking a pain killer will help. (It’s not bad but every little helps eh)

Donts
lift anything heavier than baby for 6 weeks; even if you feel able to; you have internal stitches and you don’t want to break them.

dry your incision with a hairdryer; this will blow lint into your incision and doesn’t do you much good although it seems to be what lots of people suggest; stick to the thick maternity pads as above.. all midwives commented on what a good idea it was when I saw them.

Rub soap/shower gel onto your incision. Wash your upper abdomen with soap/shower gel and let it run over your incision then rinse thoroughly, pat dry with a towel then use some cotton pads to really make sure it’s dry. The drier it is the less likely you’ll get infection - I never had any infection or anything with both of mine.

Good luck OP, enjoy that new baby head smell.. I’m so jealous!

Edited

Great advice here. Also arnica and teatree oil.

JoM8 · 24/02/2025 14:07

Not sure about the advice to cover your wound. I was told clean big knickers only to let it breathe. My scar healed so well my GP did a double take at my check up and couldn't believe how little time had passed considering how it looked. Follow your obstetrician's/midwife's advice.

Good luck OP! I had an EMCS (my baby was ok) and it was a good experience. An elective will be even better.

ExIssues · 24/02/2025 14:10

It's not that bad. Minimal pain after about day 3.
I would say stay active but don't over do it. Keep pottering about, short walks, but be careful about trying to get back to normal too soon.

In the slightly longer term, scar massage to reduce adhesions and avoid an "overhang" is beneficial for up to 2 years. I would also see a physio for help getting your abdominal strength back, before going running or high impact sport. In any case wait 3 months before doing more than gentle exercise. This will help prevent injuries even if you feel fine.

YankSplaining · 24/02/2025 14:30

I had mine in a US hospital, so I can’t answer all your questions helpfully, but I’ll do my best.

The actual procedure didn’t take long at all. I checked in at 11:30 and the baby was out at 11:57. For two weeks after, you need to walk to avoid blood clots, but should try your best to limit stairs. I was told not to lift anything over ten pounds for six weeks. My doctor told me I could drive again once I stopped taking prescription painkillers.

mammabing · 24/02/2025 19:30

I was emergency c-section but the one thing I wish I’d known about beforehand was the bloating afterwards. It was the most painful part for me. Stock up on peppermint tea! And fill the freezer with lighter meals for if you’re not up to eating much. I lived off chicken soup for a week as it was the only thing I could stomach.

CuckooclockTicTok · 24/02/2025 19:48

There is no rhyme nor reason to how your body will react.

my friend and I both had sections in the same month / same hospital.

afterwards I was Mildly sore - but totally able to do everything once I got home in day 4 - feeding / changing / carrying the baby snd he was a little elephant at 10lb!!!! Genuinely didn’t my need any pain relief - had to get up and down from chair more slowly than usual but was twinges not agony. No infection in wound and I really healed very quickly.

my poor friend was in a terrible state. On strong painkillers, could barely hold with support from cushions let alone lift her baby independently for weeks and was reliant on others (her dh and mother) to do everything for her and the baby for weeks as she was in so much pain,

I am not superwomen nor is she a wimp - would say pre kids both of us fairy stoical about illness etc - but everyone’s hormones / body’s react differently to the trauma of a CS.

prepare for the worse (needing help to do everything ) but expect the best!!!!

my experience showed me that a section is not all doom and gloom - but I would never dismiss others experiences as I saw how different mine was to my friends and got no reason I was ‘lucky’ in recovery compared to her.

every birth is different.

Go with the flow.

Arrange help / support as you may need it - but have an open mind as it may not be as awful as you imagine,

JoM8 · 24/02/2025 20:12

mammabing · 24/02/2025 19:30

I was emergency c-section but the one thing I wish I’d known about beforehand was the bloating afterwards. It was the most painful part for me. Stock up on peppermint tea! And fill the freezer with lighter meals for if you’re not up to eating much. I lived off chicken soup for a week as it was the only thing I could stomach.

This is true. I weighed the morning of my induction and came out of hospital quite a lot heavier despite having given birth to a child and placenta and lost a load of blood! I agree the wind (and constipation for me) were the worst parts. Plenty of peppermint and fibre - and water - in the run up OP. I bought that fig/date syrup which helped.

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