Lost in your 30s

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I have truly lost my sense of self having invested in my child who is now a teen. Don't get me wrong we still spend time together but not as it was and we'll they sleep a lot! But I have a very mentally draining job that when I return home I'm leached off energy. Years ago I used to go to the gym, leap up in the morning and we were out of the house with a day planned, I used to dress eith some sort of style..... is this something that happens once you've past mid 30's??? P.s. I do have a local gym membership but due to the location and nature of my job I don't want to go to it for bumping into people from it .... waffle waffle

I feel like this too, but no children. I don't feel like I have a purpose at all. It's shit!

I am 36 and felt like this a year ago and through this last autumn. DS was getting older and more independent, I wasn't working although was doing voluntary work and felt in such a rut.

Decided that I couldn't carry on like this, employed a personal stylist to sort out my clothes which has made a big difference and have got a part time job. Have also made more effort with friends and family in terms of meet ups etc. I also now have decided to not put stuff off all the time so if I decide there is something I would like to do I start planning how and when to do it straight away.

I feel the same - single mum not a great family
hard to make effort with friends and now I feel completely isolated
my daughter hates going elsewhere so iv never been able to do weekends etc away with friends which I didn't mind to be honest but it means I couldn't keep up with friends groups they didn't really understand my position
also have a job that's completely draining by time uv done house, work, dogs . DC stuff I'm drained.
I worry about how isolated we both are. Fell mentally blocked as to how to change it