My son is friends with another boy at school. Good friends. Us mums are friends too, to say hello have a coffee sometimes. Nothing more than that.
The parents of the boy split up last year. The dad lives in another town now, for work. Sees his kids every other week. He has a new gf. The mum knows about the gf, she’s fine with it, can’t bear the ex anymore. He’s making the divorce difficult in terms of lies about money, doesn’t do much with the kids.
The kids (teens) went on a school trip last week where the boy told my son that his dad is now engaged and the (much younger) gf is pregnant (He’d said she didn’t want kids etc). The dad told his kids not to tell their mum (my friend). Now my sons told me, I’m not sure why because usually he doesn’t tell us much. I think this has bothered him.
Wwyd?? I’m torn between saying nothing because I don’t want the dad to be cross with the kids, it’s not my business etc, or telling her because especially now she’s in the negotiation stage and I’ve no idea if this has an impact. Then of course because she should know, it’s not fair on her or her kids.
YABU - tell her
YANBU - best to stay out of it