DH hates his job and wants to leave. He has been offered a new job. He is a chef. We live in europe.
Anyway, present job pays monthly salary and paid holiday. Previous job paid hourly and 13% extra instead of paid holidays (meaning) extra pay every month while working, but zero while on holiday.
We had a "conversation" in the pub. I got out the calculator (phone) to compare hourly rate between the two jobs regarding holiday pay, and said if offerered the new job he should get at least x monies per hour. (Not including inflation - too complicated, which btw had been over 10% for nearly 2 years since he left previous job.)
He was not happy. Apparently this was not helpful and very distrustful of his negiogating abilities. He says he could walk into new job and not be paid less. I said how without knowing figures? And it just escalated.
Really fucking pisses me off as I hold all the financies together. He just works and pays some bills and thinks that's enough.
I am being unreasonable to expect that he might have been accepting of a suggested hourly rate (for our family)? (Gratitude may have been too much for his ego and maths.)