We definitely used to be closer, but it’s true there has been less contact since I became pregnant. Previously it was always me texting her usually once a week or so, even if it’s just sending a video etc and very rarely her texting me. I stopped texting as much as obviously I’ve got a lot going on; difficult pregnancy (currently in my third trimester & heavily pregnant), full time work, getting stuff ready for the baby etc.
I also don’t see her as much as a lot of our relationship was based about booze; she’s a much heavier drinker than me, but seeing her would almost always revolve around drinking. I obviously haven’t drank for a long time now and don’t intend to go back to it post baby as I realise what a waste of time and money it is. So we don’t have that in common now.
Anyway I got a long ranting text out of the blue after several weeks about how I make no effort now, that I have no consideration for what she’s going through (ongoing personal issues that I have supported her through) and various other things. Didn’t once ask how I was. It’s funny because I feel the exact same way but the other way around! I don’t want to lose the friendship but equally I can’t quite fathom why she expects the same level of attentiveness when my situation isn’t the same now. She lives an hour drive from me and never offers to meet in the middle. AIBU?