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To just be ok now

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Salamii · 22/02/2025 17:31

so my ex and I split up around 7 months ago (I was heartbroken as he met somebody within 2 weeks) introduced her to the kids etc. whilst they were at their dads this weekend I decided to on a date, I had sex (please don’t judge me) the sex was amazing and whilst I was out I got so much attention and I felt so good. Something in me switched and I no longer feel hurt? I don’t want a relationship and made that very clear to the guy I went on a date with but today I feel completely different about my ex?

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wherearemypastnames · 22/02/2025 17:32

Good grief of course it's ok to be ok !

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Salamii · 22/02/2025 17:34

wherearemypastnames · 22/02/2025 17:32

Good grief of course it's ok to be ok !

Thanks! But what happened? I have been so heartbroken and all of a sudden I am fine!

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wherearemypastnames · 22/02/2025 17:40

You realised it isn't the end of the world ?
You had a bit of fun and enjoyed somethings?

You will still get down times I think but you have turned a corner - be glad

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Salamii · 22/02/2025 17:41

I would never usually have a one night stand. I don’t feel any emotion towards it at all. Infact it has helped!

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Diarygirlqueen · 22/02/2025 18:23

Good for you!!

JLou08 · 22/02/2025 18:33

Have you never heard the saying of 'best way to get over someone is to get under someone'. Enjoy your single life without the heartbreak :)

TealOP · 22/02/2025 19:28

What is it you’re worrying about? The ONS has happened and you can’t change that. It made you feel better, so that’s a good thing?
Live your life. It’s a sign you’ve disconnected from the attachment you had to your ex and you’re moving on. Stop doubting yourself and be happy.

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Salamii · 22/02/2025 19:38

TealOP · 22/02/2025 19:28

What is it you’re worrying about? The ONS has happened and you can’t change that. It made you feel better, so that’s a good thing?
Live your life. It’s a sign you’ve disconnected from the attachment you had to your ex and you’re moving on. Stop doubting yourself and be happy.

Thanks ladies. It’s just something I never thought I would do but I absolutely loved it. Can your mentality change just like that or am I still on a high? 🤣

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TealOP · 22/02/2025 20:30

Yes! It’s like someone flicked a switch and you just don’t feel the same anymore. You may take a step back and have bad days but that’s often more about missing the connection than the person. Enjoy feeling better.

Pessismistic · 22/02/2025 21:38

Good for you op. you probably didn’t like the fact he moved on so quickly now you have been reignited you might be thinking this for the best and I’m sure the amazing sex helped.

whatwouldlilacerullodo · 22/02/2025 21:43

Good sex can be incredibly healing. You're lucky to have had an amazing ONS the first time, enjoy the high! :)

hoodiemassive · 22/02/2025 21:48

Sounds like you had a very well deserved night out and it has helped you move away from the hurt you have felt.

All good imo.

ItGhoul · 22/02/2025 22:04

Salamii · 22/02/2025 17:34

Thanks! But what happened? I have been so heartbroken and all of a sudden I am fine!

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Yeah, a damn good shag will generally do that, in my experience

Practicepracticepracticeagain · 22/02/2025 22:05

Hallelujah! You’ve realised that the saddo ex isn’t the be all and end all. Plus, good, strings free sex is available if you want it. What’s not to like?

kshaw · 22/02/2025 22:08

Sometimes the best way to get over one man is to get under (or on top of) another!

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