I went down a rabbit hole and maybe should t have asked (I have my own issues I’m aware of) I asked my partner of two years who was more pleasing on the eye and he said his ex was more attractive but that we had a better connection, I may add at this point in my heart I know we don’t because I have had to keep up a sexual facade and truly he doesn’t seem interested as he puts it in vanilla sex which had seemed to have multiple times a week like he had with this ex he made comment on, I only seem to turn him on if it’s appealing to his kink side and he can easily go 10+ days without an interested In sexual intimacy with me, when it is kinky thought he peaks and doesn’t stop going on about it .. I am not kinky in the ways he thinks I am and I am drained, but the cherry on top was when he mentioned another ex and a particular time that he had never orgasmed as hard since … he told me he was hard thinking about it ( edit: he could of said this to make me jealous and wasn’t this case in this instance )and this whole thing has messed me up… AIBU ? Is this ok ? Is this normal