I don't mean for this to sound horrible but I have a friend who first off I very rarely see. This may be anxiety or something else on her part, she herself will suggest meeting up. I'm very flexible on dates, I don't work weekends or evenings and I don't have children.
However when it gets to the dates she will then make it very difficult, for instance she'll say oh well I've got X appointment at that time then I've got to do Y at that time. So then it'll just end up being a write off and will get postponed until another time, even though she's the one who suggested it, and now I haven't seen her in 2 years. She drives, lives fairly locally and doesn't have children either. Obviously I can't know for sure what's going on in her life but as I say it's been 2 years..
The second thing is that she tells me a lot of stories that seem almost unbelievable. Part of me feels horrible for thinking this as maybe she's just incredibly unlucky. However apparently many staff she's met are racist, several friends, hairdressers and personal trainers call her fat and ugly to her face.
Staff plot against her. Her partner is abusive (this one i believe and I have tried to support her to leave, but ultimately that is up to her)
She's apparently received very overt and regular racist abuse in the street. She's had absolutely horrendous experiences in several restaurants etc etc.
Sometimes I just think, how can one person be that unlucky? I've had an abusive relationship, a couple of 'friends' who were rude and so on and bullying. However I just don't believe in your 30s that the majority of people in your life are constantly abusive to your face, in and out of work.
Again I might be totally wrong but I just don't know if it's believable sometimes. I go along with it but not sure what else to do. It's a strange friendship.