Always wanted 3 kids?

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I don’t feel ‘done’ , despite having a 3yo and 1yo, one of each who are both perfect in their own way !

Am I out of my mind? SinceDS turned 1 I just don’t feel fully done? If I’m honest, he was a ‘surprise’ baby so when I was pregnant I didn’t feel fully done, I agreed when people said “wow one of each you’re complete” type of chat just to go along with it

But somehow I feel the need in the future to experience everything again. My eldest has been the best, the most amazing big sibling and it’s melted my heart and surprised me a bit as I thought she’d be jealous and not loving with her younger sibling. But no she’s been fantastic. I came from being one of 2 and growing up I would’ve always loved another sibling so I don’t know if that’s what’s got me always wanting 3?

I mean, we could afford 3. But we’d need to move house, new car etc. I’d probably have to go to 4/5 days working to up my wage, I work 3 days a week and have the kids the other 2. But I’d want to wait anyway so more nearer our youngest going to school?

DH I mean, he’s a bit clueless at the start with tiny babies. When we hit 6mo he gets confident and it helps so I am aware the newborn days with a 3rd would be tough as they are for anyone.

but why do I feel this way? I was so depressed after my 2nd and it only feels like since his 1st birthday the fog has lifted, but also me and DH nearly split up it was so rough 2 aged 2 and under !

Is it science? What is it!! I can’t believe I’m dreaming about doing it all again in the future😂

Hormones. It wears off.

You can afford it now. Can you afford three teenagers then three university students?

We had three close together. Felt done after. Was a great no for us!

I have three. 18, 16 and 12. It's great fun, but fuck ME it's expensive.

I always wanted 3, DH was done after 2. The youngest is 4 now and I'm okay with the decision. The real obsessive pull for another wore off after about 3 years. They play together beautifully, it's not too much to take them away on my own, we can afford holidays, a 3 bed house fits us just fine, we won't need a massive driveway for 3+ cars in future, the food shop isn't too extortionate even in a CoL crises. Lots of benefits!

Sometimes I see larger families and I get a bit of a twang (I'm from a big family, so I understand the chaos) but when I'm sat with one child tucked under each arm reading them a story all feels right with the world.

V personal decision though!

It’s about as rational a desire as wanting to cut off your own leg to my mind.

I've recently had our third and it's wonderful. Like you, I had 2 under 2 (well, 18mo apart) and PPD that lifted after a while.

My third is utterly beautiful and I simply adore him, and I've loved every part of his life so far. We've always wanted four but now I'm getting the urge to have 5 😆 that would mean an upgrade to a minivan and a bigger house, too.

TL;DR Do it. Three is the magic number!

I could have written your post almost exactly. I have the same aged children and a boy and a girl but always envisaged having 3 and just don't feel done. Me and DH haven't hit any major wobbles and like you I just imagine doing it all over again all. the. time! I get comments a lot as well about family being complete etc etc now we have one of each and I think people would be surprised (and baffled) if we had a 3rd. But I'm trying not to let that sway my decision. My husband doesn't have the same strong feelings as me about a 3rd and would be happy stopping at 2 so that's the hardest thing for us now as I don't want to force him if he's not 100% on board. He'd rather wait a few years to see how we feel but time isn't really on our side and I don't want a big gap. So hard. I really wish I just had that 'done' feeling but my heart just yearns for another. I would absolutely draw the line at 3 though 😂

Is it though? How old are they? Not sure my numerous friends with 3 teens would agree.,