Have you ever distanced yourself from friends because of them being elusive or putting you down?
I've got a friend whom I've been friends with for about thirty years now. She comes across as meek and mild but she's quite strong minded and opiniated in a quiet way and wants her own way a lot.
We met up yesterday. She tried to change the venue that we had agreed on but I was firm about it and reminded her of what we had planned and that's where I wanted to go as we had been to the other place she suggested before and it wasn't very good so she backed down.
So we met yesterday at the big shopping centre in our city and as soon as we met she said very firmly (not joking) 'Look how busy it is. Trust you to take your leave from work when the kids are on holiday.* At one time I'd have said nothing but now I am stronger and I mentioned that I had to take some leave before my leave year starts again March and this was all I could get and that the kids are off for six weeks in the summer too, does that mean she never goes anywhere then? She then backed off and we had a decent afternoon but these type of comments get to me and I can't seem to say my piece and let it go, it just continues to niggle me.
I don't want to fall out with her but I feel uneasy meeting her when she comes out with things like this, its not the first time she's done it. She also spent time going on about how good this other friend is to her, no mention of me being a good friend. Should I start distancing myself from her a bit?
I do have other friends who are not like this by the way.