So I got sick at the beginning of half term. My partner was planning to do his work over the weekend and three days of half term while I was on leave (he is self-employed). After a night of me and our younger one taking turns vomiting, he was frowning at me and later he shouted at me for not communicating properly, as I just took myself to bed saying I’m really sick and didn’t discuss the situation with him. The thing is, in the past he’s often ridiculed me when I got sick. If I say that I’m ill he says oh you’re dying or I’ve heard already five times that you’re ill stop repeating yourself.
He was clearly upset that he has to look after the kids by himself. As a few days went by and I was still ill, he kept shouting at me for my apparent shortcomings. I felt really low. This is in a span of three days of me being in bed.
I look after him when he’s sick as much as I can, while working and looking after our children who are now 4 and 7. I understand it is frustrating when he had other plans to be disrupted like this, but I feel like I’ve had enough verbal abuse from him, this is not acceptable and no way to show our children how to treat each other.
The shouting became so escalated and ridiculous yesterday as I was leaving the house to drop off one of the children to a holiday camp, that when I came back, he said he decided he will no longer shout at me, it doesn’t change me anyway (what a surprise) and that he chose me the way I am and loves me.
To me, it sounds like he realized he took things too far and is backpedaling now.