To be fed up with this? Re working in a nursery.

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If you have a day off sick, you will get back and everyone knows why. You’ll get asked questions from all the staff and it’s like no one believes each other that they have genuinely been unwell. The manager basically tells everyone why someone is off. People are slagged off for having days off also, comments even made about someone who was off because her gran died (she is only 19 and actually lived with her gran). It was actually the manager I over heard saying ‘it’s always something’ it’s really put me off. Aibu and is this common, anyone who works or has worked in a nursery?

Sounds like a very unprofessional workplace. It is also pretty typical.

It’s really difficult as children are sent in sick and yet we are shamed if we have to have a day off

Probably not nurseries in particular, some workplaces of all professions are toxic.

It's against GDPR to tell other staff why you've been off. And it sounds like a really unprofessional place.

You can take it up with your manager informally and then start taking it down a more formal route if it doesn't stop.

When I hear people talking about some of the shitshow places they work at, I just really have to wonder about the quality of a lot of the employers out there. No HR dept or function, just making up rules as they go along (and some that are clearly against the law), treating the employees like shit...

I worked in 2 nurseries around 10-20 years ago and it was the same then in both. I've had a few different jobs since and none or them compare, they were both really toxic work places.

I work in a nursery and it's not like this. They are very respectful mostly and I think it comes from good management. I did once work in an office that was like this, everyone asking personal questions. If someone was off sick the manager would make jokes to everyone about them being out on the beer last night then when they'd come back it would be like 'oh you've decided to join us have you? Staying off the booze now are you..etc' it was awful.

Your colleagues sound really bitchy, and as a pp said, the manager is breaking gdpr rules. Can you work in a different nursery, or would you consider setting up as a childminder?

That sounds like a horrible atmosphere. Nobody believing each other. It must stem from somewhere. Has the manager been there donkeys years and hasn't moved with the times?

I've worked in a number of nurseries and have never had this. Always told off if I dared to be ill (in last nursery) but why I was off was never shared apart from between the manager and deputy.