My son is nearly 7. Separated from his dad when he was 3 months old due to years of abuse. He took me to court and they said no to contact until he showed meaningful change. 4 years later he did a perpetrator programme and that lead to immediate contact. DS initially reluctant to go, but has gradually turned into him idolising him, whilst at the same time displaying some quite unhealthy behaviours that I am not sure what to make of. He's extremely worried about what his dad thinks of him, will only wear plain clothes when the rest of the time he gravitates towards patterns and vibrancy, he flat out refuses to go to any events such as birthday parties when he's with his dad as he doesn't want his dad to 'see his friends'. He's told me his dad gets angry and has called him stupid, but is excited to see him. Its like he adores him but is highly anxious at the same time. He's been to one party with him where one of the other mums (my friend) said he was brilliant with him, and part of me thinks well of course he's going to be, he's surrounded by people. He's an abuser, he won't change. But on the other hand I just don't know. Has anyone any advice?