To be fed up with my friends?

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My friends and I have a long standing arrangement where we go on a night out every three or so months, this has been going on for about four years or so. Three of the girls I've known since primary school, the other four have joined our friendship group over the years. Between kids, work etc we only tend to meet up on these nights out, although the three longer-standing friends are ones I meet up with on a more regular basis.

I usually struggle to attend these due to childcare issues and can only meet up for the nights out maybe twice a year max. I don't want to get into the ins and outs of childcare but DH and I work around each other to accommodate this which is ideal in some ways but not so great socially! Anyway, we had talked about a night out for mid March which I am actually able to go to as DH is on annual leave that week and it looked like most people were free for a night out then too. We had decided on a tribute night at a hotel with possible overnight stay (not yet booked).

Two weeks ago one of the group asked on the WhatsApp if people would be interested in a full weekend away in the summer and all of them, except one, seemed very keen on this and it was the main chat of the group for a while. I can't go as my DH only gets one day off at the weekend and sometimes works both of them, which I told them about and asked again if we were still doing the night out mid March. Only one person replied to say yes. I asked again yesterday if we were still doing the March night out and nobody has replied, although all of them have read it. AIBU to feel a bit annoyed? I don't get to attend many of these things because of my personal circumstances and I'm not sure if they're just too excited about the weekend away and forgetting about the upcoming potential plans.

You can seriously only do once or twice a year max??

Your husband needs to pull his finger out and start being more supportive.

Is it possible they think the same, so they're not as bothered as you are about that particular meet up?

My DH is a nurse and when our oldest DC was born he managed to get fixed days on his ward, which includes one day at the weekend at least, sometimes both depending on how he is rostered on. So it's not really a case of him 'not being supportive', more that he would need to request AL if I was to make one of these nights out. We have no childcare support otherwise so it's too much of an ask for him to request AL so I can go on a night out. We need both our AL as there are two days a week when we need to cover school hols so not much left over.

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable to simply want be told if your scheduled get-together is still on or not. I would be annoyed too if no one would answer me.

Beyond that, well, we just don't know what's going on yet, do we? It could be no one is answering you because it's up in the air and they just don't know yet and don't want to be the one to bring it up, for some reason.

I would think about who you consider to be the one/s who usually take charge of things and message them privately. Maybe that will get your question answered or at least an explanation of why it hasn't been.

I think it's not because her husband isn't supportive, it's because they work opposite shifts so OP doesn't have childcare as he's at work.

I was wondering if everyone was just waiting for someone else to answer! I'll maybe message one of them and see what their thoughts are

You're a piece of work arnt you!