To think dh is a hypocrite and doesn’t appreciate me?

[MyKidsThrowFood]

Since start of the year my husband has had 1x holiday away with friends for 4 nights. He has another hol coming up in April for 5 nights. In between, he has a work trip in for 2 nights and a couple of overnights away seeing mates. Each time I’m left on my own with two preschoolers. I’ve booked in 3 nights away for myself with mates during this time, otherwise I’ll feel burnt out and resentful. Fine. But then a friend invited me to her birthday party next month, which would involve me having to stay the night as she lives far.

When I mentioned it to my husband, he made a thing about it not even being a ‘big’ birthday etc etc. When I said I thought that was hypocritical, he said I couldn’t take a joke and brought up all the times I’ve moaned about him going away. But I feel like one night is different from 4 or 5. it’s left feeling unappreciated and resentful. AIBU?

I'd tell him you won't moan any more. But you will take the exact same amount of time away.

Exactly this 💯 your husband sounds like a tool. He should be booking you spa days

2 jars method:

Put 3 or 4 marbles in 2 jars. When you go out/away, you take a marble out of your jar and put it in his. If he goes out/away, he takes a marble from his jar and puts it in yours. If you have no more marbles left in your jar, it is the other person's turn to go out/away. Hopefully it will make it easier for him to see how much he is going out in relation to your time away from the kids, and if he has no more marbles, he will start encouraging you to get out and about so that he can get some marbles back in his jar so he can have his turn again!