To be really disgruntled that she has blocked me.

[JoelyJoe]

I admit, this is really trivial.. but it has pissed me off...
I occasionally post items on Olio - always nice things, toys my daughter has finished with etc.
This week I posted a cute little backpack. Another user said she would like it, so I agreed to leave it on my front step for her one evening.
The next day I realised she had not picked it up, so I sent a message saying I had seen it was still there, and did she still want it.
She came back saying really sorry, she had forgotten. So I said no problem, and offered to leave it out the next evening. I told her it was in a plastic bag on my step so she could get it any time.
Next day it was still there. So, I looked to see if she had left me a message, and she has blocked me! I can still see my responses to her, but all of hers show "This message was deleted", and at the bottom of the page it says "you cannot reply because one of you has blocked the other".
I don't understand why she has done this. I didn't hassle her, I would have left it out again if she'd asked, or re-posted if she had changed her mind. Also, I have shared items with her in the past (a couple of crafting bits a few months ago), and she thanked me then, and seemed really pleased, messaged me to say they were for her grand daughter. So why behave like this now?
I know it's not worth worrying about, but it has niggled me!!
AIBU to be annoyed?

It’s really poor manners op! I’d be irritated too!

Can you put the bag back on the site with a message saying “available again due to time wasters” 😃

That is tempting 😂

In my experience people quite often behave like this in these circumstances, seeming keen and grateful to be offered something then changing their minds and not being able to simply tell you.
Goodness knows why they do it. If it bothers you, it might be better to avoid these transactions.
I would have assumed she didn't real want the item as soon as she failed to turn up to collect it the first time, and relisted it. And I never agree to keep something for somebody who can only pick it up next week, because they won't!

This is my first negative experience on Olio, to be honest. Everything else I have listed has been picked up without any hitches. She genuinely sounded like she had forgotten, so I didn't mind leaving it out again for her. People are strange!!
I will definitely be less accommodating I think....

what puzzles me is when they dont explain what the issues are and instead just block, yes i can see the point where they may not be able to tell the truth, but it is puzzling

It's so strange! As though they are somehow backed into a corner, when nobody is likely to mind much if they say they've realised they can't use the item after all.

Exactly.. a quick "so sorry, I've realised I'm not going to be able to pick this up after all".. is all it would take!

exactly, its like my example if i said if our communication's are not ok for any reason then talk to me or we can discuss any issues etc, what is puzzling is being told our communication's are ok then when i communicate i get blocked its like why the deception ? i understand if theres more i dont understand but then why not talk to me when i asked if x was ok so to speak

overall they are a great person, just puzzling

I think it's just embarrassment or the expectation of a bollocking, you might be kind about it but others may not.

Because blocking is easier for her than having to message you.

This is why I don't use these kind of sites any more, been mucked around too many times by people who don't turn up, and once by someone who I agreed to drop kids' clothing off to who wasn't in when I took it there. I just bring it to the charity shop now.

I tried to use Olio to give away some baby items, plenty of 'can I have this' then no further responses, but the weirdest one was a woman who asked for a bag of baby clothes for her soon-to-be grandchild. I said yes no problem, arranged a collection, and she didn't turn up. I messaged to ask if she still wanted them, and the following day she replied to say no because her son and his partner have decided to have an abortion instead. Just TMI if true, but it didn't ring true (the way she worded everything), it seemed like a very odd lie! Gave up on the app there and then

Move on she dosent want it and isn't bothered. Give it to a charity shop. No problems then.

It's a bit odd and rude I agree. I think some people can't bear any sort of confrontation or the risk someone might seem disappointed or annoyed so they just ignore/block.

Ive had this too and it's bonkers because I'd be absolutely fine with "I've changed my mind" or "I don't need it now" but silence after initial enthusiasm is confusing and sometimes annoying.

My friends brother and his wife were expecting a baby approx one year after mine. I sent them a group message congratulating them and asking if they wanted some nearly new stuff I was about to put on Freecycle. I was careful to say i know they might not be keen on second hand and absolutely fine to say no thanks, i won't be offended. They both responded very enthusiastically saying yes please, very grateful. Couple of weeks later messaged to ask if they'd like me to drop off or hang on for now. They both read message but total silence.

I think in between times the grandma had offered to buy them new stuff and they didn't need my stuff which would have been fine with me, but the silence was so odd, but least because we still saw each other at social events.

That's just one example but it's happened a few times. I think it's just a lack of social skills/avoidance. Just shrug it off - at least you know how to behave properly!

@JoelyJoe no good deed goes unpunished.