To do a Mutual Exchange

[TheRedButterfly]

NC for this

I’ve lived in my housing association house for 3 years, and those 3 years have been absolute hell due to NDD. I could sit here all day and talk about what she’s done. She is obsessive, stalks us, reports us to every agency / police at least once a week, smashed one of our windows before, destroyed our bins, vandalised our car, complaints to our HA all the time.

Our only way out of here is by doing a house exchange. But I feel really guilty as the person we exchange with will be unknowingly walking into this situation. I’m aware that the previous tenant of this house also moved out for the same reason. WWYD? I can’t cope any longer living here :(

YABU - don’t move house
YANBU - move and get out of there

Move and get out of there.

Do you have to declare problems?

I would move tbh

@HH4432 Nope, no consequences for not declaring anything, I would just feel guilty

Just be careful OP because if you are wanting to swap to avoid a bad neighbour there is a chance that the other person is doing the same thing.

Are you reporting to the HA and police every time she does these things? You need to build a case against her so that one of you gets a move with support.

NDD may like the new tenant. I'd move without overthinking it. As pointed out you may face the same in next house

@PaintDecisions not police but they often recognise us and already know the situation so are understanding, same with social services they don’t bother coming out anymore, other services do though. The HA believe her lies plus she owns her house so we’ve never done anything formal. Only actually spoke to her once.

@Hohofortherobbers We know the previous tenant left because of her and we aren’t the only ones she targets, we know her motivation behind it and unfortunately it’s due to it being a HA house and jealously around this. Even though we both work, and so do the other family and targets, she refuses to acknowledge this and stands outside shouting that we have a free house and that she is paying for us to sit on our arse. Ultimately we don’t have to prove anything to her anyway and need to keep our employment private due to her harassment anyway. I’ve had to delete all social media due to her messaging my family members with lies.