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Irrationally angry

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Coldhandswarmhearts · 20/02/2025 11:21

Can anyone shed some light on this for me please? I am irrationally angry with DH at the minute about EVERYTHING. I am a normal, rational person with everyone else but I honestly feel like I'm losing my mind when I'm with him. I suffer from depression but am actively being treated. I'm working with no difficulties, it hasn't affected my work or my other relationships in any way. We have had a tough 6 months. He has had a close family bereavement. During the period of family illness I suffered quite a few physical illnesses as well as spent time with the crisis team. I don't believe that he was there for me, but to be fair to him he was coming to terms with his own family situation and impending loss. When I'm away from him I can see that I just need to leave him alone, but when we're together the anger and resentment I feel against him is huge. I am getting counselling for my MH but it's not relieving this particular situation for me. i'm undergoing further physical medical investigations and I do not feel I have his support. I just want to know how to move on and stop being so angry with him, our entire relationship is on the brink

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friggingnora · 20/02/2025 16:59

How old are you? IF you truly feel the anger is irrational could it be perimenopause?
Flashes of irrational rage towards my husband were one of the first things to go when I started HRT.

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/02/2025 17:01

friggingnora · 20/02/2025 16:59

How old are you? IF you truly feel the anger is irrational could it be perimenopause?
Flashes of irrational rage towards my husband were one of the first things to go when I started HRT.

I agree - that's how it affected me, too.

ItGhoul · 20/02/2025 17:34

My sister is going through perimenopause / menopause at the moment (and can’t take HRT) and has been so irrationally angry, especially at her partner but also the rest of us, that I am finding it very difficult to be around her. Could this be a factor for you?

You mention that your depression is being treated - have you recently changed or increased medication? Some antidepressants can have the side effect of irritability/anger, especially when you first start them.

Finally, anger is quite common in people with PTSD or other stress related conditions and you’ve obviously been through a hard time.

Partners are often the people who end up being the target of this kind of anger.

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