Grandparent favouritism

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I am gutted. My parents have had my sis children since Sunday. They are definitely without doubt the favourites. We have been sent hundreds of photos of days out, special moments etc. My kids were meant to be visiting tonight for tea, a movie and a sleepover with GP and cousins - my youngest has had a little bag packs since Sunday with his toys and has been counting the days. GP have just cancelled them. My sis is going to a spa so they are driving her kids home tomorrow rather than sis picking them up. Mine are so upset. I am so upset and also I’m not getting the childcare they had committed to tomorrow (agreed on Jan) but that’s a different story. My sis and BIL have a similar work set up to us - all working full time. Just so sad that GP obvs prefer the other set of kids and perhaps my parents prefer my sis too.

Also behaviour wise my son is the youngest at 6 so needs a bit more supervision brushing teeth etc but they are well behaved (not perfect but pretty good) - so I don’t think it’s that

Have you pointed this out to them? Could you arrange for the next holidays that they have your children stay and make a comment that last time you had sisters children so surely it's fair it's now my children's turn?

Is there any other reason why they are more likely to help sister than you? Ages of children? Any additional needs?

Oh that is sad for your little one.

I guess it's the ages? 6 is still quite full on to look after, whereas they get easier as they get older. They possibly can't cope with a 6yo any more?

Tell them your youngest has their bag packed and has been counting down the days. They’d have to be heartless not to find a way to fit them in

I'd be raging! I had this with my mum, she would have my sisters 2 kids for sleepovers/days out when they were primary school age. My son, the same age as one of my sisters kids at the time didn't get a look in because he is autistic. Funnily enough when my sister fell out with my mum some years later I suddenly became the one my mum wanted to know. Now she's dead i have nothing to do with my stepdad as this behaviour was encouraged by him

Keep your kids away from them because they'll internalise it and blame themselves.

I think 6 year olds are really easy, my son is 6 and it is by far the easiest age yet. You’ve said your son is well behaved too. This would really upset me, I could understand if your son was a toddler as they are a handful but at 6 he isn’t a baby. I don’t know why they agreed to have him over night but have now let him down especially as they have their other grandchildren too?
what reason did they give for cancelling?

Point it out and tell them how gutted your child is!

Yeah I'd be getting shitty about this!

I would say something about how your kids are so disappointed over being uninvited. Also, I'd make sure they don't make any more plans in front of your kids only to cancel on them again.

I'd also ask for the photos to stop too! You don't need to see them enjoying their other grandkids when they're cancelling on your children! It's heartless.

I'd message back.
Have him or fuck out of all our lives.
I would absoleutly go scorched earth over someone who could upset my child and show that litte care for them.

I would be asking them to reconsider due to the disappointment of your ds and if it’s that they can’t accommodate all the children in the car to deliver your sisters kids then I’d be telling ds to cancel her fricking spa or arrange transport.’
If nobody bends then I’d be withdrawing contact.
Your poor kids, I feel upset for them.

That is so unfair on your little boy.
Tell them they are vad GPs for letting down your little boy and tell them how he feels to guilt them over it.

Next time, tell your DS not to get too excited for sleepovers so his hopes are not raised only for him to be let down.

Its definitely shameful favouritism.