Or is this way of dealing with it unhealthy?

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Since I split with my ex 5 months ago I have become a bit of a recluse. My friends keep asking me to do things and I would rather just deal with this in my own. He has met another woman straight away and the pain in unbearable. Is there a right or wrong way to deal with this?

OP the way you’re dealing with it is fine

Theres no right or wrong way

Deal with it the way that seems right to you. Just make sure you are taking care of yourself. When you are ready you can start getting back out there, a yoga class, swimming, lunch with a friend.

Sometimes the social stuff feels overwhelming as you don't feel ready to talk, sont want to get upset etc so if you actually did want to go out you could set some boundaries with your friends "I'd love to join, but please, just don't ask about x don't want to talk about it at the moment"

Yes that’s it. The thought of it seems
overwhelming. Ex is currently out with new woman socialising etc and people keep telling me that I need to get out, but right now I just want to keep myself to myself instead of boring people with my problems. I don’t want to go out drinking as my mental state isn’t great and don’t want to do anything I would regret.