to be pissed at this?

[Freddie15VES]

ex of 10 years (only been split for a few weeks) had told me a few days ago how he’s not on dating apps, ‘literally the last thing on my mind’ - he says…yet one of my friends has found him on a dating app. it’s been a few weeks, am i being over the top?! or am i just respectful of his feelings and he isn’t of mine?

he has days of not asking how our children are, today for example being one of those days. his bio says he ‘wants to travel more’ so seemingly forgetting about his 2 children?

why are some men such pieces of shit

He’s an ex for a reason don’t give him the headspace

You're not together so stop keeping tabs on him. Not sure how any of this makes him a piece of shit.

I mean you’re separated. 1 day 1 week 1 month. Makes no difference, you separated for your reasons. He could hook up with a woman in the bar mere hours later a dating app is probably more work.

I don't think he's done anything wrong tbh.

Are you upset that he is on the apps or upset because he lied about it? I guess he is thinking of your feelings in a way because he didn't want to tell you he was on there because he knew you would find it upsetting.

I would probably be a bit annoyed at how quickly he was moving on, but I would also be annoyed that someone you've spent 10 years with can lie to your face about something so stupid. What a pointless lie.

Ultimately, if you are split, he is free to go on there. So are you.

How long has he been on there?

You need to stop thinking of him as your person.

Your relationship together has ended.

You now need to navigate the co-parenting relationship. I don’t think I’d expect daily communication regarding the kids. How often is he seeing them? How old are they?

He's an ex and has moved on. Best if you do the same. Stop stalking him

I'd say this is an indication he was on the apps before you two split. Please don't give him the head space.
If you were hoping you'd get back together with space I'm sorry, doesn't look that way but one day you'll look back and be glad it's over. X

I think it’s impossible to know if you’re being unreasonable or if you’ve gone over top top unless you say what you did.

But, you’re separated. He can do what he likes. You can too.

As long as the kids are parented does it really matter?

Sounds like you pushed for the split, he said OK and moved on. What's he supposed to do?

Why are your friends stalking him? He is an ex. He can be on whatever site he wants. Leave him alone!

No offence but you need to grow up a little bit, he’s not your partner anymore. Work on your own self and forget what he’s up to.

You also can’t control the type of father he is. If he’s going to be an absent father, let him be the master of his own downfall.