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Holiday with kids or support for parents

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emeraldcity2000 · 18/02/2025 21:37

Due to be away with DH, DC (4 and 8) for half term. DF (late 70s) was admitted to hospital over the weekend with suspected heart and kidney failure diagnosed in some routine checks. They live a few hours away, I came down as soon as they admitted him and have been at the hospital for a few days with DF and DM. He’s been sent home today with new meds, AF under control and seems to be doing well. DM struggles to cope with any kind of stress and is now feeling unwell herself with anxiety type symptoms.
wibu to get an early train home tomorrow and a flight out to meet the kids tomorrow evening for the last few days of holiday? Kids are fine but are missing mummy and expecting me to make an appearance at some stage…
For context I work full time in a pretty demanding job so time with the kids is precious … but feel like I’d be leaving DM in a situation she’s struggling to cope with to go on holiday which might make me a terrible person…

yabu - to consider leaving
yanbu - things are under control, spend some time with the kids

OP posts:
Notgivenuphope · 18/02/2025 21:40

Very un-MN opinion but right now your parents need you more and I can’t imagine you enjoying a holiday knowing your mum is struggling with your unwell father.

schoolmum11 · 18/02/2025 21:55

I'm actually super close to my friends and would drop everything for them. However in this instance if your DF has been sent home I'm guessing he's stable and doing much better so I would go on holiday for the last few days I think. Although I know my mum would encourage me to, so would be harder if my mum was struggling to cope.

schoolmum11 · 18/02/2025 21:55

Sorry that should say parents not friends!!

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