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How to improve mental health

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jenhoney2 · 17/02/2025 22:48

I'm feeling really low at the moment. Combination of family issues, very little help with the dc which means Dh and I are constantly tag teaming and are more like roommates than a couple, health concerns, low self esteem, a difficult ex, work pressures...you get the picture. Life just feels very difficult and bleak at the moment.

If it were just me I'd try and dig myself out of the hole by taking some time out to rest or go for a long walk or to the gym. I don't get the time. By the evening I'm exhausted. I try and get out with the kids which does help my mood but inevitably costs money, ends in tantrums and isn't relaxing. I try to give us all some downtime rest days at home and end up feeling stressed and restless by lunch time.

I feel totally trapped and unable to really help myself. Everyone always needs something and other than dh I have no support. I've put on weight and I look and feel dreadful. I drink too much to try and level myself out but I know that's a slippery slope too.

Does anyone have any simple, achievable tips that might help?

OP posts:
StrawberryFreckles · 17/02/2025 22:58

Read books instead of going online.
Stop and look at something every day for a couple of minutes at least. A flower, a cloud, a cat.

loubielou31 · 17/02/2025 23:06

How old are the DC?

Fresh air every day is a good start, a walk to the park if there is one, just round the block a few times if that's all you can manage.

Cut out the alcohol, you know it isn't improving anything.

Get your hair cut, it is a small step to feeling better about your appearance.

One of the very best things I have ever bought is a sunrise alarm clock. The blare of an alarm always started my day with an unpleasant jump. The light is much calmer and has had a positive effect on my mood. But you do need to spend the money on the better one and it was about £100.

Midnightlove · 17/02/2025 23:06

Maybe try to have a healthy diet, that can improve your mental health a lot. Go for a walk at weekends with the kids? If they're going to moan anyway you might as well get some exercise and it's free. I suffer with anxiety rather than depression really, but have been doing something more relaxing like an adults painting by numbers with meditation music on and I find it helps me relax. Or find someone to take the kids for a day and have some relaxing time outdoors with DH

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