To think my mum should be staying with us?

[Alwaybkind]

Brother was in rehab for 10 weeks and discharged himself 2 weeks ago. He is now living with me hubby and 3 kiss. He is clean from his heroin/crack addiction however It’s a very overwhelming situation I knew it wasn’t going to be easy but we have no end date so he could be with us for a while.

Mum has come stay with us for a week to support him but I can see she is overwhelmed and is ready to go home.

AIBU to expect her to stay up here with us? It feels like a huge burden on me and DH. We both work and have young kids.

I think you're unreasonable to have a drug addict living with your young children, even if he is your brother. What is your Mum feeling overwhelmed by? Can he go and stay at her house with her instead

Whats the end plan here? He can't live with you forever, or your mum
I presume your mum lives alone? Why isn't he there with her instead of both of them being at yours, in your already busy house.

No way I'd have a recovering addict in same house as my young kids.

I don’t think he should be living with you at all! Doesn’t seem at all suitable with young kids.

If he has to stay with a family member, why you and not your Mum?

Is there no way he could live by himself?

Why on earth is he staying at your house? Its really not appropriate as your children are there.

Why isn't he at Mums? Where was he living before rehab?

Mum lives in the town where he was in addiction for 10 years so that isn’t possible. We are waiting for a call from his housing officer but that could still take time until he gets his own place

He discharged himself early by the sound of it?

I see, I understand why he needs to stay away from his previous location and friends.

Why did he discharge himself and what are the chances of him getting a placement in the very near future? Is there no-one else in the family without kids he could stay with away from the previous location?

You realise he is at high risk of relapse, what are your plans in that event?

Didn't you post about this before? Your brother discharged himself from rehab and didn't complete the programme?

This isn’t on your mum. She needs to look after herself too. You’ll need to find a solution that doesn’t involve her.

Why is it "on" the OP though?

It’s really inappropriate to have a recovering addict to stay with your DC.

You are being really irresponsible having him stay around your kids, especially given he discharged himself.

If a grown woman is struggling with him then I can't see how kids should be subjected to it.

You've got a crack addict living with your children? What will you do when he relapses? He needs somewhere else to go asap.