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Feeling like my bf is getting bored of only being us and want to include our (my) friends more into our plan outs

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lalabugirl · 17/02/2025 20:29

After my bf small flirting with my bestie at a party while they where drunk i don’t feel that comfortable with him being to close to her or to many plans with my group that means them interacting and vica verca its sad since i did like our group vibe but after that im just unsure. And last weekend i suggested for easter if we should rent a small cottage because it sounds very cozy. He implied it be cozy if we invited with us some friends (prob my friends) since he only has 2 guy friends he dosnen’t see often. We been togheter for 3 years and i feel like my company isn’t enough so we need more people into our plannings. I love my friends! But i also need to have some friends for myself u know? When he hangs rarely with his 2 best gals they only them 3, understandable. Even tough i know friends are important i don’t want them to be the ones that keep us togheter. I think he has need to hang out with em boys thats why he suggested having a boys night but with my buddies.

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outerspacepotato · 17/02/2025 20:38

She's not your bestie if she's flirting with your "boyfriend" and he's a shit bf.

toomuchfaff · 17/02/2025 20:55

After my bf small flirting with my bestie at a party while they where drunk
she's not your bestie of she's flirting with your 3yr BF. And he's a shit you need to get rid of.
i don’t feel that comfortable with him being to close to her
No shit. Ditch her and him and do it quick.

He implied it be cozy if we invited with us some friends.
If he wants your friends on a romantic weekend away, I'm afraid he's just not that into you.

steff13 · 17/02/2025 20:58

I'm not sure what constitutes small flirting, but I don't think a real friend would do any kind of flirting with your boyfriend. Nor would a good boyfriend reciprocate.

Poppyseeds79 · 17/02/2025 21:00

Sounds like he's hoping you'll bring a few girlfriends so he can try and cop off with them 🙄

lalabugirl · 17/02/2025 21:14

@toomuchfaff @Poppyseeds79 the girl «bestie» Ellie lets call her, i have only 2 girl friends but my other best friend has a bf and a baby so we haven’t seen much of them lately, but i find it more cozyer with them.. all my other 4 friends from the group are guys, and me and ellie are the only girls. I feel every guy is over the heels for ellie but i didn’t mind as long it wasn’t my own bf.. he got a big warning of me leaving him if he does it again. And i also told my so called bestie that it wasn’t how a «bestie» acts around a friends bf. Thats why i got kinda annoyed when he replied with inviting our group where Ellie also would be included. Especially since this happend 4 weeks ago and he allready on with seeing her again. And i think for myself inviting our (my group) would end up in drinking at the cottage plans because why not would be their answer? He is like ehh.. but looked more foward it if we intvited our group. Because his excuse «its cheaper then». I guess is true aswell but i wasn’t looking for a jaquzzi or expensive cottage.. like can’t we have a little romantic trip without including people in them?

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toomuchfaff · 17/02/2025 21:18

he got a big warning of me leaving him if he does it again

what he actually got was an understanding that you'll tolerate the behaviour, and not to get caught. Make no mistake.

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