Coming to terms with only having one child

[RainbowRead]

This might be because I'm in my mid 30s now and bio clock is ticking. I have one child age 6. Been single since he was a tiny baby. Feeling a huge pull to have another child. If I didn't have my son already I would consider sperm donation, but just can't risk one child having a father in their life and another not. I think that's probably it for me. One lovely child and done. Feeling very tearful about it at late. Does it pass? I can't be alone in feeling this way?

I had two, and third pregnancy that became an ectopic pregnancy. I wanted to change the dynamic, of my own birth family as I have 1 brother. I know the feeling you speak of , and I really wanted that baby.. but sadly it was not to be.. so. I think even with 1 or 2 or 3, a woman can feel sadness saying goodbye to that part of your life. That said are you sure you’re too old to meet a new partner? Maybe pop a coil in but don’t get your tubes tied.. who knows what might happen? I had my first child at 37… it’s a decision you can revisit at 40?

I was happy with one for years but now I’m 35 I really want one more baby.

I have a coil (it's amazing). I haven't dated and my son has a hobby that consumes my life. I could never force him to give it up. I get no free time and work ft. I just don't know how dating would be possible.

Will you resent that hobby in the future? He’s only 6? Surely you’re allowed one night off? For a date? Can you afford a babysitter? Or have you help from family or friends you trust to mind him?

What hobby does a six year old have that consumes your life? Surely that's not sustainable

BMX. He's very nearly 7 (next week). He has BMX club on a Saturday, coaching on a Sunday, practice on weds and Thurs. He has SEN and adores his hobby. He would go every night if I'd let him. He's winning races and has been called 'one to watch' locally. I haven't had to push him at all and it has transformed him from a child who hates school and himself (his words) into a child who is achieving and winning medals and trophies and actually has some self confidence. I'm too happy for him to sacrifice any if it.

He's very good at it. He's winning a lot of races. He has SEN so babysitter would be tricky. Family are nearby but find him quite hard work.

Really lovely that your DS has a hobby he loves! I would say broodiness does dry up, at 38 I am very happy to hand back friends' babies after a cuddle and I don't have the same yearning for one more. I am one and done for medical reasons and have struggled with that for nearly 10 years now but love my DD while genuinely not wanting a baby now which is great for me (although I am visiting a 2 month old at the weekend so will see how I feel after that) hopefully you will feel the same soon 🙂

Are there any nice single bmx dads at these races?? You're still young enough to meet someone else in the next couple of years and have another baby!

Sadly not but there might be in future, who knows! That would be ideal!