To ask if anyone else struggles with friendship?

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I have a friend who is autistic, and I suppose i struggle with the conversation. That's not her fault, it's likely mine for lacking conversational skills.
She is a wonderful person but most conversations just feel like a question and answer session with the same questions each time and no flow. I struggle to spend more than an hour together. Again I am not blaming her for that.

I have another friend who honestly only see occasionally now. This situation is different as she is a devout Christian and would love me to be involved in the Church, however I just do not want that, it's not me. So that situation might be an issue for her, I only see her every several months now.

When we're together I feel like she's very bored, it's just a lot of 'mmmm, mmhmmm' and just not saying much. However then she will message me asking if I want to meet up.

I'm told by other people that I'm easy to talk to, kind, interesting etc. And I don't think I'm a terrible conversationalist, maybe I'm just bad in the two above situations.

Another thing I struggle with is in noisy places. I don't like going to bars etc. With people as I can't hear what people are saying properly and I just feel awkward. Does anyone have any advice or things I could maybe work on? Maybe I shouldn't take 100% blame.

With friend 2 we did our Masters together and have worked in a similar field, however I think we're very different people and not much in common.

I remember a few years back I was dating someone who only wanted to see me around once a month even though he literally lived 1.5 miles away. She said that he was perfectly entitled to 'get to know me slowly'. There's slowly and then there's just taking the piss.

That's a shame you all sound incompatible having different communication styles and interests. Your ex-partner was unfair. Sounds like you were an option and he wasn't into the relationship, bothering when it suited.

Honestly it's cliche advice but it works - join a club that you're interested in, a hobby group, volunteering. People who do these things tend to go out after and be looking to make friends. I have moved different places for work and have always met friends this way.