Worried about wedding/hen as I don't have many friends

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I don't even have one planned but this is something I would like to happen with my partner and is something I worry about.

I'm mid 30s, don't really have a group of 'the girls' i did have a group from school but unfortunately I don't think they ever really valued me, I was always expected to travel to them and they never came to visit me in over a decade, made little jibes and just never seemed that fussed so I distanced myself.

If I'm honest I'm not that fussed about having a 'girl's group' but I guess I'd have liked some sort of celebrations.

I have a few old colleagues and then the odd friend here and there. I just worry it'll look bad at a wedding. Luckily I've got a good family but I don't really have a best friend and I tend to struggle with friendships. Has anyone else been in this situation with weddings?

Yes and that's why we only had a private one with both of us, our witnesses and our dog.

I didn't have the experience of trying my dress with friends much less a hen do.

I still get sad about it every now and then but it's not like I could magically make friends overnight.

Same reason why I don't celebrate my birthday with "friends" either.

I was like you too and tbh it did show at the wedding. The party was a damp squib! But hey, life goes on. Hen do was a random mish mash as I have one friend here, one friend there etc…. Sister, SIL, one friend from work, 2 school friends, something like that. It was nice though (spa and night out).

It never occurred to me to have a hen do and we had 6 people at the registry office. Been married a very long time. Why does showing off to friends and family matter? Who you are marrying is what matters.

Sounds like me - I don't have a best mate, a group of girl mates or anything like that and my friends are a few different groups. I probably invited about a dozen friends to our wedding and DH twice as many but it was fine; this was in the context of quite a big family wedding though.

You don't have to have a big wedding, or a big hen, or a hen at all. We did a combined stag and hen because frankly we just like each other's friends and didn't really like the idea of 'last night of freedom without your partner' type connotations. Some women just have an outing with family, or don't do anything.

I had niece as a flowergirl, no bridal party. I was married wearing just a 3/4 length bridesmaid dress, so it wasn't like I need to be surrounded by people to help me et dressed or move around in it, so if you feel odd about not having a bridal party, just having a simple dress can help because it's not like it needs a big show around it.