Was this a rude jibe or am I overthinking it?

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At a wedding, if you're single (and one of the only ones who is) and a friend said to you "Oh will you be like that girl from 27 dresses who's always the bridesmaid?" (I was a bridesmaid)
I know people are drunk at weddings but no excuse to treat you like trash.

Another friend who seems to be a bit funny when drunk, for some reason she decided to try and give me orders: "go and get me a drink" I said no..
Then she being drunk knocked a glass over and said to me "Look what you've done now! That's your fault!"
I ended up crying in the toilet as I felt like I was being picked on. I don't drink and sometimes when youre the only one who does it can be tricky especially at events like weddings.
Didn't want to make any scene so I just quietly thanked the bride and left.
Just feel like these people aren't real friends and are just frenemies.

They were rude and mean. That’s not how friends treat their friends.

So sorry that happened to you.

No excuses for that kind of behaviour at all.

They were unkind.
The spilled drink one I would say is more like bullying

I was nowhere near the drink even. She spilled it due to being drunk then for some reason thought she could pretend to shout at me and blame me, it honestly felt like being back at school

Bridesmaid one is just an insensitive joke, probably not intended with malice, but didn’t think how hurtful the old phrase “always the bridesmaid never the bride” could be.

That said, that's assuming that you even want to meet someone and get married - maybe that’s not in your plans and so as a joke its even more misjudged. I’d probably not hold that one against her.

Sloppy drunk ordering you about is clearly a bit of a dickhead. Again probably not personal, just how she is with anyone when shes drunk, other friends, boyfriends, family probably all hate her drinking if she gets bolshy. Just avoid her when drinking if she’s ok otherwise. I have a friend who’s a terrible drunk, so now i just see her for coffee etc!

You'll never win an argument with a drunk. Just walk away

They were mean and insensitive, but they were also drunk and you were sober. I don’t think drunk people are usually fun to be around when you’re sober and I think a lot of people can be unintentionally rude/ blunt/ dramatic when drunk, it’s just usually they’re being that way to other drunk people who don’t really notice. Depending on the history of the friendships I wouldn’t necessarilly assume they aren’t real friends but would definitely not socialise with them when they’re drinking and you’re sober again.

The thing is this will rule out any sort of hen party, weddings etc. But maybe that's for the best..

Honestly, I would put all of that down to them being drunk. I don’t really drink either, and there’s a point in an evening where I just need to leave because drunk people are not fun to be around. If they are like this other times, then that’s different.

If your friends are routinely obnoxious when drunk, I’d be making a new set.

Didn't want to make any scene so I just quietly thanked the bride and left.

Were you a bridesmaid at this wedding? Did you (the bridesmaid) leave whilst the reception was in full swing because two drunk people (the second more than the first, imo) had been cunty to you?

Being drunk doesn't give people the excuse for being assholes. I would distance myself from these "friends" as they're not friends at all.

It just makes me wonder what they actually think of me and whether they're just pretending when sober. If I have my own wedding I honestly don't feel like inviting them as I don't want jibes on my own wedding day.

No i didn't leave whilst it was in 'full swing' but even if I had wanted to then surely it's because they were being pricks.

Well, no, I would think at a wedding where you're the bridesmaid, you WOULDN'T leave because a couple of drunk guests were unpleasant. Unless there were only three of you there, I (hope) in the same position I'd move off, leave them to it and find nicer company, rather than cry in the toilets and leave the event early.

Both awful, second the worst, alcohol no excuse, are these friends usually nice to you?

Alright, well that's you and your opinion,that's fine.

Drinking brings out the worst in some
people, I’d hope they’d apologise if you said they were nasty. But equally I would question whether they are true friends and back off for a bit.

The bridesmaid comment I think was just a poorly delivered joke, I don't drink anymore but it does sound like something I might have said thinking it was a harmless joke. The girl who was angry about the spilt drink was rude. I wouldn't write them off as friends though.

I also don't think you should have left though. You were the bridesmaid you should have stayed there in case the bride needed you. You might want to give her a bit of an explanation as to why you left.

They are not your friends, OP. One thing I've noticed is that if you're single people feel more free to be rude because they know you don't have a partner who would dislike them if they were. I've noticed in my large family that those who are married are treated a bit more carefully than those who are single.

Sorry should've said, I was one of 4 bridesmaids. When I said i left earlier I mean I left at 10:45pm whereas people were there until 1/2am so hopefully it wasn't an issue.

And didn't walk out without letting her know why, sorry wanted to make that clear.
Agree maybe the first joke didn't have malicious intent.

Why not leave? Bridesmaid isn’t like being a bride of hesus. You aren’t swearing eternal fealty.

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They sound like the girls from Muriel's Wedding!

And you know what Rhonda says to queen bitch? "Stick your drink up your ass, Tania. I'd rather swallow razor blades than have a drink with you. Oh, by the way... I'm not alone. I'm with Muriel" 🤣🤣🤣

Watch it if you haven't OP- and find better friends xx