Messages vs dates

[Belless]

I’ve been on a couple of dates with a man in a short period of time

He is brilliant in person. Conversation flows, similar humour, have mutual interests but also different ones

In messages, he is very slow to reply. I’ve been matching his style as don’t want to look keen. Although I usually reply promptly.
Short messages and humour doesn’t always come across. Seems to be extremely short in texts and I’m confused of what’s going on

I feel it’s important to communicate between dates. Maybe he prefers phone calls?

I'd hazard a guess he's either very busy, not much of a texter, or dating multiple women. Possibly a combination of all three. A couple of dates is early days so I wouldn't read into it at this stage.

Just use messaging to
arrange dates and enjoy each other’s company.

Maybe just discuss it with him? He might also be trying to play it cool and not come on too strong?

If you raise it and it doesn’t change then you know where you stand and it’s up to you if his communication style is compatible with yours!

He doesn't text much. It's not that confusing.

What sort of age group, if 50+ he just might not really do texts

What age, what period of time?

I was dating a guy. Amazing connection. Texting / phone calls were slow close to non existent, yet always on WhatsApp?

anyhow, addressed it, said he’d make an effort.. didn’t. Then got a message I felt wasn’t for me. I commented as such called him out on his non improved communication and said it’s making me feel you aren’t interested and would just be better if you said that.

read and ignore. Literally ghosted me after leaving bits at my house and telling me I am amazing etc etc

so maybe someone else. But if he wanted to, he would. You can only address it with him and see if he improves or not. If communication is important to you, don’t settle

Not everyone enjoys texting. I can't stand it. If someone has a problem with me not constantly being on the phone they should find someone else to date.

It’s very early days and I may have said something that stuck with him about previous guys bombarding me with texts.

We are young, think late 20s early 30s

He does seem like a genuine guy though. Perhaps a little nervous but only a touch bit, which I guess I can be too. I’m going to see how the next date goes.

It’s probably because of what you said then.