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To tell landlord of next door neighbours?

53 replies

Ezlo · 16/02/2025 08:25

My next door neighbours regularly argue. They don't care what time it is and have two young kids.

Each time they argue they both say horrible things to each other and then I hear really loud banging. Possibly him trashing the place. I've called the police on them in the past. They also have a drug dealer visiting (via the back door) daily, I think demanding money.

I've had enough and so I want to tell their landlord to sort them the fuck out. WIBU to do so?

OP posts:
ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 08:29

I’d be calling SS for the sake of the children first.

cinnamonbunfight · 16/02/2025 08:29

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 08:29

I’d be calling SS for the sake of the children first.

This.

UggyPow · 16/02/2025 08:58

What do you think your landlord can do? They are the owner of the property & not responsible for how people behave.
How long have they lived there? There may be a break clause in their contract if only a short time but if they don't go voluntarily you are looking at eviction routes. Section 21 minimum 6 months - Section 8 through the courts depends where in the country you are & what grounds can be used.
Seriously, antisocial behaviour evictions are incredibly difficult to secure.
If you have concerns for the welfare of the children it domestic violence then follow those routes.

MolluscMonday · 16/02/2025 09:00

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 08:29

I’d be calling SS for the sake of the children first.

Yep, this.

JMSA · 16/02/2025 09:03

I would definitely tell the landlord. And SS.

Dogthespot · 16/02/2025 09:11

What did the police do?

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 09:17

UggyPow · 16/02/2025 08:58

What do you think your landlord can do? They are the owner of the property & not responsible for how people behave.
How long have they lived there? There may be a break clause in their contract if only a short time but if they don't go voluntarily you are looking at eviction routes. Section 21 minimum 6 months - Section 8 through the courts depends where in the country you are & what grounds can be used.
Seriously, antisocial behaviour evictions are incredibly difficult to secure.
If you have concerns for the welfare of the children it domestic violence then follow those routes.

She wants to call the neighbour’s landlord, not hers.

SometimesCalmPerson · 16/02/2025 09:21

What do you think the landlord can do? They could do an inspection if one is due to make sure their property isn’t being damaged but they can’t do anything about their arguing or parenting. If the property is being damaged, sadly there’s not much the landlord can do about that either. Giving tenants all the power has negative consequences for everyone.

Chuchoter · 16/02/2025 09:23

Given the types of people they are it's possible the landlord is friends with them.

I'd report to Social Services for the child welfare concerns and to the police for the arguments and evidence of drug dealing etc.

Ponoka7 · 16/02/2025 09:27

Keep phoning the Police, report to your local authority child concern line. The threshold does generally have to be higher, but three police responses should mean them making a referral to SS. If you don't care about them knowing you've told the LL, then do that, but don't do it thinking they'll keep confidence.

toomuchfaff · 16/02/2025 09:28

UggyPow · 16/02/2025 08:58

What do you think your landlord can do? They are the owner of the property & not responsible for how people behave.
How long have they lived there? There may be a break clause in their contract if only a short time but if they don't go voluntarily you are looking at eviction routes. Section 21 minimum 6 months - Section 8 through the courts depends where in the country you are & what grounds can be used.
Seriously, antisocial behaviour evictions are incredibly difficult to secure.
If you have concerns for the welfare of the children it domestic violence then follow those routes.

I have a clause in my tenancy about "illegal activities" and also one about "doing anything that would cause other residents (flats) to be disturbed or annoyed" - if there is drug use, and a daily drug dealer visit, one of those clauses captures these activities.

But yeah social services too

Fencehedge · 16/02/2025 09:34

Yes, landlord will want to avoid declarable neighbour disputes which devalue their asset

Flipslop · 16/02/2025 09:37

why haven’t you phoned social services re the kids safety??

Diningtableornot · 16/02/2025 09:38

SometimesCalmPerson · 16/02/2025 09:21

What do you think the landlord can do? They could do an inspection if one is due to make sure their property isn’t being damaged but they can’t do anything about their arguing or parenting. If the property is being damaged, sadly there’s not much the landlord can do about that either. Giving tenants all the power has negative consequences for everyone.

The landlord could end the tenancy when it is up for renewal .

nellythe · 16/02/2025 09:38

I always find the idea of ringing the house owner on tenants a bit like ‘telling their parents’. What would you do if it was privately owned?

As others have said, social services should be your first port of call. I’m surprised you haven’t called them already.

BlondiePortz · 16/02/2025 09:39

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 09:17

She wants to call the neighbour’s landlord, not hers.

Landlords can't get involved in someone's relationship

On what grounds of the tenancy does the landlord need to know this?

LunchtimeNaps · 16/02/2025 09:40

If the police attended they would have already made a referral to SS.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 16/02/2025 09:40

BlondiePortz · 16/02/2025 09:39

Landlords can't get involved in someone's relationship

On what grounds of the tenancy does the landlord need to know this?

Illegal activity and disturbing neighbours.

However OP I doubt it would work, phone social services and keep calling the police

Fencehedge · 16/02/2025 09:41

nellythe · 16/02/2025 09:38

I always find the idea of ringing the house owner on tenants a bit like ‘telling their parents’. What would you do if it was privately owned?

As others have said, social services should be your first port of call. I’m surprised you haven’t called them already.

So? I lived in a flat where my neighbouring tenant came back 3am and played loud music all night. Once. I reported to LL, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. It didn't.

LL and SS

toomuchfaff · 16/02/2025 09:55

BlondiePortz · 16/02/2025 09:39

Landlords can't get involved in someone's relationship

On what grounds of the tenancy does the landlord need to know this?

on the fact there is drug use? drug dealers turning up at the house etc. possible debts being incurred on the property where their cash wasn't spent on bills - maybe some fraudulent activity too where they open multiple utility accounts because they haven't paid the bills - multiple names on utility bills flagging the house as fraudulent.

That's just some issues I've dealt with on previous tenants.

ThejoyofNC · 16/02/2025 09:56

Agree with others that you need to contact SS. Those poor kids.

Createausername1970 · 16/02/2025 09:57

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 09:17

She wants to call the neighbour’s landlord, not hers.

But the end result is the same.

FranticFrankie · 16/02/2025 09:58

Social Services definitely
The children could well be hoping someone does something

Knickerbockergrolia · 16/02/2025 09:59

Where I am, landlord licensing requires a clause in the contract about anti social behaviour - so there may well be plenty they can do

nellythe · 16/02/2025 10:01

Fencehedge · 16/02/2025 09:41

So? I lived in a flat where my neighbouring tenant came back 3am and played loud music all night. Once. I reported to LL, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. It didn't.

LL and SS

Edited

But if you did the same, nobody is calling your building society who likely own your home. I just find it a very bizarre concept and wouldn’t dream of involving someone’s landlord.