To be annoyed at my mum

BunnyBun97 · 2025-02-15T22:33:09+00:00

She had my DD today whilst I attended a work training day and she let my 5yo nap from 2.30pm-5pm and now she will not go to sleep\

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 15/02/2025 22:34

That’s annoying, but why is your child able to nap at 5? Might they be ill?

Star81 · 15/02/2025 22:35

I can get why you’re annoyed but sometimes if a child’s tired you have to let them sleep. Why was she so tired, a late night, maybe coming down with something ?

Ultimately, she helped you out with childcare, it’s a one off so let it go.

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BunnyBun97 · 15/02/2025 22:38

They had been swimming, shopping and out for lunch and had woke up early for week so she was just tired I think but now it will all be out of routine

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BunnyBun97 · 15/02/2025 22:39

woke up early this morning^

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Tumbleweed44 · 15/02/2025 23:12

No I wouldn’t be annoyed. It’s a one off.

EVHead · 15/02/2025 23:13

Pay for childcare if you don’t like what your mum does. It sounds fine to me.

MumChp · 15/02/2025 23:13

She did you a favour to look after your kid. Next time be clear in your expectations.

steff13 · 15/02/2025 23:17

Generally if my child was returned to me she and happy, I wasn't bothered about things like this.

Acornacorn · 16/02/2025 00:04

I’d be super annoyed too!
I get that she was providing free childcare but this just seems lazy or poorly thought out.

Pottedpalm · 16/02/2025 00:15

Acornacorn · 16/02/2025 00:04

I’d be super annoyed too!
I get that she was providing free childcare but this just seems lazy or poorly thought out.

‘They had been swimming, shopping and out to lunch..’! Maybe they were both tired. I would be bloody grateful, not ‘super annoyed’ .

Eenameenadeeka · 16/02/2025 04:40

I can see it why messing up bedtime is a pain but I'd just be greatful that she spent a lovely day with your child and enabled you to work

rugrets · 16/02/2025 06:29

Oh no! This is the sort of thing that pisses me right off OP when my mother lets my twins nap - the last time it happened and the twins were bouncing off the walls at 10pm I told my mother she was doing bedtime and left her to it. Funnily enough she's been very careful not to let them nap since

BlondiePortz · 16/02/2025 06:47

rugrets · 16/02/2025 06:29

Oh no! This is the sort of thing that pisses me right off OP when my mother lets my twins nap - the last time it happened and the twins were bouncing off the walls at 10pm I told my mother she was doing bedtime and left her to it. Funnily enough she's been very careful not to let them nap since

They are your children not hers, she is grandparent not a nanny

So i would not be annoyed at her

Zanatdy · 16/02/2025 06:50

If you want naps limited or at certain times then you need to communicate that.

Graniteisaverygoodsurface · 16/02/2025 06:57

EVHead · 15/02/2025 23:13

Pay for childcare if you don’t like what your mum does. It sounds fine to me.

Someone always makes this comment and I wonder where you would draw the line? Are you allowed to make absolutely no requests or comments under any circumstances if your child is ever being cared for by family?

BlondiePortz · 16/02/2025 06:59

Graniteisaverygoodsurface · 16/02/2025 06:57

Someone always makes this comment and I wonder where you would draw the line? Are you allowed to make absolutely no requests or comments under any circumstances if your child is ever being cared for by family?

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Did the op say when naps should be?

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 16/02/2025 07:01

Wow. How ungrateful you sound.
Did you say anything to your mother about this sin that will make your life impossible now?

BlueSilverCats · 16/02/2025 07:05

I mean.. the kid was tired. Unless your mum deliberately and actively put her down for a nap , then what could she realistically do if she just fell asleep?

I bet you wouldn't have been happy getting an overtired, grumpy and whiny 5 yo back either.

GlimmerOfGold · 16/02/2025 07:05

I would be annoyed and shattered if I was dealing with a newborn or v young child, but not a five-year-old!

LoveWine123 · 16/02/2025 07:05

Your mother took them swimming, shopping and to lunch and spent the whole day with them. She sounds like a loving engaged grandma and instead of saying thank you, you’re annoyed as it disrupted their routine for one evening? Please get some perspective.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 16/02/2025 07:26

I get that you are angry and probably overstimulated but your mum didn’t mean any harm…Shake it off but next time say no naps after x time please.

I have the other end of the scale my DD refuses naps at grandmas so I get an overtired mess…. It’s one of those moments you take a deep breath and think will it matter in 5 years… no so accept it and think next time set some requests